i want to kill myself. when i was child i had so many friends but now at 20 years old i am extremely socially inept and introverted i just can’t make any friends and my old friends don’t bother with me anymore. why?? i’m not rude or anything... i think they r just bored of me? i’m such a loser.

i want to kill myself. when i was child i had so many friends but now at 20 years old i am extremely socially inept and introverted i just can’t make any friends and my old friends don’t bother with me anymore. why?? i’m not rude or anything... i think they r just bored of me? i’m such a loser.

So what we're not going to do is be negative towards oneself. I know it's very tempting and easy, but be a little more lenient. I'm a virgo, so total introvert and have social anxiety. I'm 26 and at 20 I felt really alone. Right now I have life-long friends that I can count with the palm of one hand, but I wouldn't trade them for anything, no matter how irritated they make me feel at times. Being lucky enough to find even ONE good friend is hard, it's like finding your soulmate, almost. If you think you're boring, change your narrative. Get a hobby like writing reviews on yelp and becoming an elite so you can get invited to events, join a boxing gym. Learning to play an instrument is cool, but I'd say to start things that require interaction with people, so that way you increase your chances of making friends. Whatever you think of yourself now, can change. Just do productive things. Make yourself feel valuable. When I was your age, I got a part-time job, did research at school, and kept myself busy, because I had noone to go out with. Then I started to get out my comfort zone by smiling at strangers and doing comfort zone challenges. I motivate myself by thinking I want to become the best version of myself that I can for when that special someone comes, they meet me at the best I've been. Life is full of many opportunities, you just have to start somewhere. :) You can do it! -Stranger who cares

So what we're not going to do is be negative towards oneself. I know it's very tempting and easy, but be a little more lenient. I'm a virgo, so total introvert and have social anxiety. I'm 26 and at 20 I felt really alone. Right now I have life-long friends that I can count with the palm of one hand, but I wouldn't trade them for anything, no matter how irritated they make me feel at times. Being lucky enough to find even ONE good friend is hard, it's like finding your soulmate, almost. If you think you're boring, change your narrative. Get a hobby like writing reviews on yelp and becoming an elite so you can get invited to events, join a boxing gym. Learning to play an instrument is cool, but I'd say to start things that require interaction with people, so that way you increase your chances of making friends. Whatever you think of yourself now, can change. Just do productive things. Make yourself feel valuable. When I was your age, I got a part-time job, did research at school, and kept myself busy, because I had noone to go out with. Then I started to get out my comfort zone by smiling at strangers and doing comfort zone challenges. I motivate myself by thinking I want to become the best version of myself that I can for when that special someone comes, they meet me at the best I've been. Life is full of many opportunities, you just have to start somewhere. :) You can do it! -Stranger who cares

Re: 1am thoughts

You are not a loser and there's nothing wrong with being and introvert. If your friends are not with you , it simply means they were never real friends to begin with, and you don't need fake friends in adult life believe me. You are just 20 yrs old, you have your whole life stretched out with endless possibilities, don't end it over please who don't deserve your thoughts let alone your life. I know it gets hard to make new friends as we grow up, but atleast you can find some real frnds. Do everyday one small positive thing out of your comfort zone.Maybe make small talk to a new person or help an elderly or go out to dog cafes. Believe me it will make you feel better and eventually it will become easier and accomplishments and happiness from these small victories will overshadowed all negative things in your life :)

You are not a loser and there's nothing wrong with being and introvert.If your friends are not with you , it simply means they were never real friends to begin with, and you don't need fake friends in adult life believe me.You are just 20 yrs old, you have your whole life stretched out with endless possibilities, don't end it over please who don't deserve your thoughts let alone your life.I know it gets hard to make new friends as we grow up, but atleast you can find some real frnds.Do everyday one small positive thing out of your comfort zone.Maybe make small talk to a new person or help an elderly or go out to dog cafes.Believe me it will make you feel better and eventually it will become easier and accomplishments and happiness from these small victories will overshadowed all negative things in your life :)