The one you want

I am a man. I am a feminist through and through. And I have gathered the opinions of all of my female friends. I've been left by nearly every girl I've been with because I am too good of a guy. Like, they feel too dependent on me for their happiness. Which still doesn't make sense to me. I get not needing a man in your life. But isn't ok to want a man in your life? Maybe I'm the asshole, but all I've ever been guilty of is being understanding and respectful. As a lover and romantic partner, I'd say I am at least decent. I just don't know why I end up in the same point every time. And I promise this isn't some "nice guy" being a jerk and blaming it all on women. I have actually gone many years wondering if there is something wrong with me.