I feel so frustrated and disappointed in myself. My wife struggles with depression &amp; I try my absolute best to help, &amp; be as understanding of this disease as possible. I try to be absolutely accommodating but it breaks my heart to see her so miserable. It also sometimes pulls me down into a depressive mood. We have been together for 5 years and wasn’t this bad at the beginning. We used to have so much fun together even great conversation. We would crack up together and laugh and enjoy just the smallest moments. Now I try to bring that back and she says she’s too depressed. she has been in therapy &amp; EMDR therapy the past year. I would do anything for her and to give her an enjoyablelife but I feel like nothing I am doing is working or helping. I have brought this up to her letting her know if there’s anything I can do that would be more helpful for her to let me know. She isn’t rude about it at all but says that when I ask her about it, it makes her feel guilty about being in a bad mood. Which I do not want her to feel guilty at all. I guess I’m just at a loss of options &amp; also needed somewhere to vent because I do not ever want to speak negativly about her especially to anyone in our lives. Just carrying a lot of weight on my shoulders I think, needed a place to unload it for a minute. Thanks.

I feel so frustrated and disappointed in myself. My wife struggles with depression & I try my absolute best to help, & be as understanding of this disease as possible. I try to be absolutely accommodating but it breaks my heart to see her so miserable.  It also sometimes pulls me down into a depressive mood. We have been together for 5 years and wasn’t this bad at the beginning.  We used to have so much fun together even great conversation.  We would crack up together and laugh and enjoy just the smallest moments.  Now I try to bring that back and she says she’s too depressed. she has been in therapy & EMDR therapy the past year.  I would do anything for her and to give her an enjoyablelife but I feel like nothing I am doing is working or helping. I have brought this up to her letting her know if there’s anything I can do that would be more helpful for her to let me know.  She isn’t rude about it at all but says that when I ask her about it, it makes her feel guilty about being in a bad mood.  Which I do not want her to feel guilty at all. I guess I’m just at a loss of options & also needed somewhere to vent because I do not ever want to speak negativly about her especially to anyone in our lives.  Just carrying a lot of weight on my shoulders I think, needed a place to unload it for a minute.  Thanks. 

Have her listen to subliminal messages on YouTube. Or listen while asleep. It will change her situation. As God said, “be it unto you as you believe”. Subliminals reprogram the brain. The depression will be lifted from off her permanently in Jesus’ name.

Have her listen to subliminal messages on YouTube. Or listen while asleep. It will change her situation. As God said, “be it unto you as you believe”. Subliminals reprogram the brain. The depression will be lifted from off her permanently in Jesus’ name.

Re: A husband who wants to help

I’m so sorry you feel this way and it’s very hard to know exactly what to do to help someone you love when you see them suffering or in pain. But just keep loving and being there your wife as you are now and just don’t beat yourself up to much. And know she loves you to even when her feelings get the better of her. She’s show that she cares about what this is doing to you just keep the lines of communication open but also know that their will be days you can’t do anything right to help and days where you can. I’d been through this with my Dad’s illness there were days when it seemed like he was going to get better and days when he wasn’t and I felt helpless too but he appreciated everything I’d done even when he could no longer tell me.When we love someone is in our nature to try to jump in and help even when there’s really not much we can do to make the other person feel 100% better. But we also must realize that things can be beyond our control sometimes illness no matter what it is is a tricky thing you wanna help but sometimes can’t and don’t always know how but we can always listen when they need to tell us something and try we’re human that’s all we can do. Just don’t lose heart and beat yourself up and do take time for yourself too when you need it but always let your wife know if she needs you even when you take a break that if things get bad she has to reach you and can.

I’m so sorry you feel this way and it’s very hard to know exactly what to do to help someone you love when you see them suffering or in pain. But just keep loving and being there your wife as you are now and just don’t beat yourself up to much. And know she loves you to even when her feelings get the better of her. She’s show that she cares about what this is doing to you just keep the lines of communication open but also know that their will be days you can’t do anything right to help and days where you can. I’d been through this with my Dad’s illness there were days when it seemed like he was going to get better and days when he wasn’t and I felt helpless too but he appreciated everything I’d done even when he could no longer tell me.When we love someone is in our nature to try to jump in and help even when there’s really not much we can do to make the other person feel 100% better. But we also must realize that things can be beyond our control sometimes illness no matter what it is is a tricky thing you wanna help but sometimes can’t and don’t always know how but we can always listen when they need to tell us something and try we’re human that’s all we can do. Just don’t lose heart and beat yourself up and do take time for yourself too when you need it but always let your wife know if she needs you even when you take a break that if things get bad she has to reach you and can.