My sexuality is constantly a subject of high confusion for me so I am seeking some type of advice/help. I’m a 15 year old girl and I can’t seem to figure out if I’m straight or bisexual. It’s been built in me ever since I was little that the action of have sex with someone of the same gender is wrong. “We don’t judge the person just the action.” I know if I was my parents would still love me but I don’t know if they would fully accept it. Idk. Am I allowed to look at her like that? I think if I was I would mainly like boys and marry a boy but I think I would date a girl. Girls are just so pretty and seem like it would be so nice to date a girl but I don’t want to be judged or criticized and if I do claim it then I have to come out of the closet and I don’t want to do that. And that means I have to come out to a future husband and what if that ruins my friendships and my relationships. My friends and I always joke about being low key bi but I’m not sure if they know I might mean it. We’ve all kissed (not a serious type of kiss like just as a joke) and one of my friends says she would fool around with a girl in college and honestly I probably would too. But what defines being bisexual? What if I claim it and I’m wrong? What if I claim it but don’t “act gay” so people attack me for it or say I’m faking. I don’t know how to go about this or properly figure this out. I’ve been feeling this way for months... please help.
Re: Am I bi?
You don’t have to “act gay” in order to like girls and boys. And you also don’t have to go to any stress over this. Take your time. Think about it, try to feel or see yourself with someone of your sex.
And whoever friend who judges you for being who you are wasn’t really your friend then. So my advise is to take things easy, don’t put pressure on yourself. This is a big decision. Think things through after you realize you like someone of your sex and then give it a try.
I’m sure it will be fine