I started talking to this guy last year. He was popular, charming, funny and a good looker. The life of the party. I have always felt like I’m not all that, a bit of a boring person to talk to and not very pretty either. We were mates for a few months and got closer, then he confessed that he liked me and although he wasn’t in a place for a relationship he thought he could see us together at some-point in the future. I then confessed to him telling him that I felt the same way. although we decided to just be friends we talked for a few months over text, he lives a few hundred miles away so it’s difficult to meet up. It’s that kind of relationship where you are flirting all the time and saying things about having a future together but there’s no commitment. I started falling harder and deeper, whilst he was saying all of the right things for example, ‘we would be an amazing couple etc etc’. We called lots of times and got on well. He would drop comments about going on a date, and how long distance relationships would work, basically our conversations revolved around talking about romance. I then decided it was time to meet up. He really wanted to see him and kept talking about meeting. I was sick and tired of just texting and calling. We had met a few times before but hadn’t see each other in a while. So I spent a lot of my savings to go down there and see him. It was going to be at a party as he is at uni. He knew what I thought about drinking, I told him I wanted to have a proper catch up and I didn’t want him to get drunk. But yeh...he went and got drunk. And ignored me most of the night. When I confronted him and told him I was upset he just got defensive and upset with me as if why should I be cross with him when he didn’t do anything wrong? Basically making me out to be the bad guy. we met up a couple of times after that and got on well, after he half heartedly apologised about what happened I, being fickle full heartedly forgave him. I went home and then I heard nothing from him for a week. I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I had to tell him I was upset about what happened. And why he had stopped talking to me. He just replied saying why do I have to talk to you everyday? Then he said he needed space. He called me up and said that he just wanted to be mates that this was all a mistake. That I wanted more from him but he wasn’t actually serious and he hasn’t fallen for me like I had him. He said he didn’t plan on taking the relationship anywhere. I told him I wouldn’t wait around and he said no one was asking me to wait. I felt stupid. Like had the past few months I had got the wrong end of the stick? Was I lying to myself? Did he mean the things he said and the way he acted with me? it broke me tbh. I just bottled it up inside. We still decided to be mates but he plays With me and tries to make me jealous. I don’t know what to do. Am I just being downright stupid and naive being so upset over this guy????