I've been in relationship with this girl online, met her three years ago, just started dating at october 2020. Earlier today, she confronted me saying how shes tired of me texting her about assignments all the time, how every conversation we have always has to end up with me groaning about my missed assignments and her complying, encouraging me to do it, give me advice or take a break. She says that she's been trying to say this to me even before we got in a relationship, because she wants to talk about herself, she wants to tell stories, in which she already does alot, but never said it until now because she thought it was selfish and she was being narcissistic since she knew I was probably just stressed out. But she snapped today because she couldn't handle the fact that everytime she starts up the conversation with a topic about maybe her stories, her dreams, or things that happened today, I would always end up turning the conversation about my assignments or family, or just outright ignore the thing she just said, only leaving 1-3 texts only. She's sick of it, it was to the point that it made her think on whether or not she should break it off, or just start ghosting me. And the only reason she didn't do that because I was the only mental support on her life where she could confide everything to, but I don't really remember anything on what she was saying, I did notice that I talked about my assignments alot but I didn't knew it was that much. She also told me there were several times she devoted herself to make something, a drawing, or a piece of writing, for me. for my reaction and reply, but I would always disappoint her by only saying few things about it and then start talking about things that I did or stuff. I know this sounds shitty and all, but I had over what, 80+ missed due assignments and i was stressed out even if was procasinating most of the time. Add that up with family problems and sh*t. Am I the a*shole here?