How I ended up in the relationship I blame on an ex who ghosted me. What made being ghosted harder was the fact I'm good friends with his sister so to this day, his name is brought up in our friends' WhatsApp group or mentioned when we meet up. I find this hard as I'm constantly reminded of how worthless he made me feel. So this leads me to the next relationship, I met him on Tinder, nice guy, good job and no baggage (or so I thought). Started off really well and I was happy, but things started to change a few months in, he wouldn't have as much time for me, but because I was so afraid of being ghosted I put up with it. Even finding a hotel receipt didn't make me realise it wasn't the relationship for me, I brushed it off and made myself believe there was some reasonable excuse for it. A few months after that, things got even worse and he told me to go back on Tinder, this was my worst nightmare, but somehow I convinced myself he was doing this for me, helping me to build up my confidence and what harm was it just talking to these guys and it brought us closer together. However, it didn't end with just messaging guys it progressed to him wanting me to meet them, I said no, but this is when he really used my insecurities against me. He would say he wasn't coming over unless I met these guys. I managed to get out of meeting the first guy (this guy knew beforehand I had no intention of meeting him, but played along and sent me the messages I needed). However my ex was smart and then started waiting outside and he would bring me to meet these guys. I met two guys, nothing happened. The first guy didn't know my situation but thankfully he didn't try anything, the second guy did and agreed to meet me as he probably knew if he didn't I would have met someone else and might have ended up meeting a not so nice guy. I now realise meeting these guys didn't help me, it just spurred him on to push the boundaries further. He then told me he had booked a hotel room and wanted me to get 2 guys to meet me there. As ridiculous as it seems to me now, I tried to arrange this, but as one of the guys who I tried to meet told me after he wasn't comfortable taking advantage of me and thankfully I couldn't find any guy who was. I gave my ex an ultimatum that either he stopped this or we needed to breakup. He said he would stop, but then somehow convinced me to meet a friend of his who would call to my house. I agreed to this, I didn't think he was serious and so called his bluff and thankfully no one showed up, but a car did stop at a house next door to mine and I was never so scared in my life. My ex was to call after his friend had been, but work got in the way and this made me finally have the courage to walk away from him, with the help of another guy from Tinder who told me to cop on to myself and even composed the breakup text. I'm forever grateful to him. Fast forward 2 and a half years and I'm happy. Have a good boyfriend who treats me well and has had my back when my ex has contacted me. The advice I'd give for anyone in a situation like I was in, is GET OUT it's hard but the relief I felt was unbelievable. Literally felt the weight from my shoulders lift. I realise how easy it is to get in a situation like this as it happens so slowly and your main priority is to try and get back what you once had, this will NEVER happen. I hope this helps someone xxx.