I've been (19) with my boyfriend (20) for a year now, he has Asperger's syndrome and depression. Recently, in the last 1.5 months, I have been trying to open up the discussion of depression with him, but that has made him nervous. Due to a long distance relationship and especially at this time (he lives abroad) we can't even visit each other and the whole situation has affected us.
He says that with my questions about his condition I try to impersonate the psychologist, and that I have forgotten the role of his girlfriend, he also told me that if I continue to do what he hates so much (the discussion about depression) he will want us to break up! He also accused me of doing all this because of quarantine, because I have nothing to do. He has left me speechless, I started the discussion in order to let him know that I am there and I am available for anything but he sees that I am just continuing to do something he does not want to do.
Last night, after a fight, again, I decided to stop "playing the psychologist" and told him that I would not behave like that again, but I asked him to respect me and he replied: I respect you when you respect me.
He can't understand how worried I am about his condition. Because of his autism he has an issue with the expression of his feelings and it is generally very difficult for him to express himself but of course he does not admit it, so I decided to ask questions about how he feels, but all these he sees as an interrogation.
He has a normal intelligence and it seems very much that if he decides to have a conversation with someone, he knows things about physics and engineering that a university student is most likely to tell you and he can't even finish high school due to a psychological burden during the exams. He recently decided to drop out of high school but the team that helps him and his family doesn't want that to happen and he feels they are in control of his life, in the bad sense, and he hates the whole situation thinking that no one is listening to what he wants. He has gone to psychologists and it did not "work" so what can I * do * to help him ???