Let me be clear and forthright: I am not an incel. Incels have a few defining characteristics:1. They're inherently straight.2. They lay blame on others for their own shortcomings.3. The single target of their blame is women.I'm not straight.I accept my shortcomings.I blame the prevailing culture.Gone are the days when my tactless grandmother would try to set me up with every cute girl working the checkout counter or handsome friendly stockboy. Though, she doesn't even remember my name anymore so that precludes that anyway (and makes me more grateful for the pandemic because my social obligations to entertain or care for my elderly relatives are postponed indefinitely). My grandmother isn't there anymore, just a husk that's holding on to what little remains.You really learn a lot about people when they lose their minds. My grandfather got cruel at the end, something I normally only ever saw in sparse moments of weak anger. My grandmother is a bump on a log.Elderly rant aside, this culture is the problem.We live in a world mixed with the worst parts of the past and present: - it's still the obligation of the man to make the first move, to initiate the courtship, to act with chivalry - but women have set aside any paired obligations to those antiquated customs in lieu of feminism (don't get me wrong, I'm a fan of universal egalitarianism, but many of the people who claim pro-feminism don't seek true equality). it's okay for them to accept courtship with no intention of developing interest for their courtier; they can be gold diggers, in it just for the money, and that is culturally acceptable; ghosting is the new norm.And the whole rape accusations matter is a clusterfuck. Men can be innocent and still have their lives torn apart at the mere suggestion that they did something inappropriate to a woman, even if they've never seen her before, let alone had consensual intimate relations. And for the false claims and libel and destruction of livelihood, the female accusers get nothing more than a relative slap on the wrist in comparison. Men who accuse women of rape are put into even more dire straits.Don't even get me started on the matter of soul mates. If you believe that everyone has one, how does that fare for the people who never live to adulthood; I'm not even talking about whatever twisted sense of justice you use to justify being anti-abortion, merely the natural illnesses and complications and drunk drives and pure simple accidents. What happens to those people, whose "predetermined soulmates" never make it to adulthood? Are you going to tell me they get reassigned? Or that they never had one in the first place, which only puts you in the position of whatever deity you claim has the intelligence and forethought to see all that shit coming. If that's your excuse, then you're taking fault away from everyone, including the DWI and DUI offenders; they were meant to kill those people, it was out of their hands, it was predetermined; that's what you're saying. (I told you not to get me started.)Gone are the days of blind dates, of my friends and family hooking me up with someone they already vetted, and yet they're the ones who bemoan my singleness the most, wanting nieces and nephews and grandchildren. They seem to serve to earn the most, but do none of the work anymore.I am not single by choice, but by circumstance. And no effort I make has had any effect on those circumstances except to make me more bitter about it.