I always vent out my anger and frustration in front of my hubby as he is my best friend and understands me well. But these days i feel resistance to share things as its mostly about his mother. I cant afford to lose him because of this as i love him more than anything. So writing everything here.This is what indian new moms get in return for sacrificing sleep, relaxation and tolerating all pain by sitting n feeding whole day👏🏻👏🏻1. I need to get a device to measure whether I have fed my baby properly as during every feed i hear "U have fed him properly right? Is he full? Feed him properly this time" like seriously?????I am always doubted that I don't feed him properly at once that's y he cries frequently. 2. I need a cctv to be installed near my baby so that i can prove that I did not wake him up purposely n was only pacifying already woken up or crying baby. These days m so scared to touch my own baby when he wakes up frm sleep. I check thoroughly if 'someone' is around n touch him only when anyone ain't seeing. Have even walked away noticing him awake n looking for me as I am constantly scared of being accused of waking up my sleeping baby. Yesterday it was around 4th or 5th time I was accused of waking him up. That hurt me badly.3. Frequently asked about not having sufficient milk whereas I feed him whole day n my breasts are always full of milk except few times.. His urine is the proof he feeds well.4. Made to feel like I can't calm or handle my baby when he cries, whereas majority of the time i do it alone.5. If it would have been my parents who came here from other state, they would hav been asked to strictly follow quarantine rules n stay away from baby for 14 days. 6. Forget the time when only husband's parents had right on the home. Now both share all expenses equally and both parents have equal right. So the other room belongs to my parents as well. MIL always keeps the door closed when she is inside even when there are no mosquitoes, no loud noise, when she is not even sleeping. My parents hesitate so much to knock or open door when they need something. Just imagine if my mom had done this my god she would have been directly asked 'Do u really need to close door' always.7. Always made to feel like till 1.5 months nothing was handled properly , we were so incapable of doing all tasks (Bath, massage, calming baby, making him sleep, feeding him, cooking good food). now only all things are managed properly ,now when the baby has grown up well and tough phase has already passed. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻8. We are eating spicy food inspite of having acidity problem and taking medicines without complaining cz we dont like making ppl feel bad about anything. Thats because my hubby and MIL think everyone has same taste bud as them and everyone should feel same level of spice. We are lying when we say we r having issue due to spicy food.Understand that Every family is different and so are their food habits dont judge there also saying 'omg so nazuk ppl cant eat spicy food'9. I am sacrificing my sleep from day 1 when i had major operation (The painless n easy delivery ofcourse) and my mom was also sleeping just few hours at night and during the day she was cooking seperate food for me and others and taking care of massaging n bathing baby n me and many other tasks.10. My mom took both her kids to Madhya Pradesh within 3 months of delivery and there was no one to help her both times. You may feel she may teach me to speak these things like many moms do but She never taught me to be outspoken or straight forward, she always says try to keep quite n adjust. I learnt only to adjust but not keeping quiet. I have to speak out everything atleast in front of one person else i go into depression mode.You need not always judge what someone is going through just because you never went through it and need not always criticize others cz they r not perfect. People are not always perfect they are just different. Understand and Accept this truth.Also as per what i have always heard there is no perfect woman like my MIL and her elder sister and ofcourse the new favourite '***** dada's wife'. Rest all women they know are just useless, incapable of cooking tasty food, cleaning, taking care of kids, Dont do things fast and on time and worth criticizing.