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Hi. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if this is normal, but I'm thirteen. A close friend of mine is a male. When I was introduced to him, he told me he was homosexual. So, a few months later when I was staying the night at his house, when he learned that I hadn't had my first kiss yet, he said something along the lines of "Oh, I could teach you." And after thinking about it, I agreed. Before this, I had been heavily questioning my sexuality. I knew for a fact that I liked women, I just didn't know if I was bisexual or a lesbian. The kiss, with me only being able to progress on it if I pictured him to be a female, kind of solidified the fact that I was a lesbian. So we stopped. After a few weeks, he brought up the kiss again, but in a different way. He started the conversation by saying he was "kind of a nudist" and I replied by saying that was fine, as long as I wasn't around him. And he continued, saying he'd like it if we "reached the point in our friendship where we were comfortable with each other like that." I didn't get it yet, but I said that I wasn't comfortable with that. So, he took a post-it note and wrote "you were just fine with kissing n stuff so i thought you'd be fine with it" I wasn't fine with making out with him. I wasn't. I hated it. But I told him, "No, Nerf (my nickname for him) I'm a lesbian. I wouldn't be okay with it."

And he still relented. "No you wouldn't have to do anything. You'd just have to lay there and let me make you feel... good." And I walked away, pretended to be suddenly interested in the movie credits upstairs. He didn't bring it up again, but the conversation's been replaying in my mind. I don't know if I'd be comfortable around him again, but I don't know if I'm overreacting. If this conversation is completely normal. It's just been eating at me, because I thought he was gay. I thought he was someone I could relate to, a person who understood boundaries, a person who knew how fucking uncomfortable that conversation would have made me. And he still did it. I don't know. I'm probably overreacting.