l have an adult aged son who lives with my ex husband. My son has depression for over 5 years and has just been diagnosed with high functioning autism and feels that no one cares. He is 24 years old and is not working due to depression. He has lost tons of weight and thinks about suicide. He has no friends and is on the computer all day,, not doing chores, sleeps a lot, self care has gone down , not motivated. I came up in October to visit. I was only going to stay 1 week and I am still here. I got him a counselor, dentist and doctor appointments, got him diagnosed, got him enrolled in Far Northern Regional Center. He has gained weight and is eating better and having better self care and is more social with family. My staying at my ex's home to care for my son is effecting my own mental health.It is not a good or safe environment for me. I feel my son needs help. My ex told me he will provide my son a place to stay and help him with food but will not help him with appointments, limit computer use, etc., that he is an adult and needs to do it himself. I tried to explain to my ex that my son is going through depression and has Autism and is not thinking clearly. His counselor told me that he needs help with this and needs to be helped and pushed to do things due to his Autism and depression and that I am not enabling him and to set limits on the computer. My ex has been upset and angry with my son for not working. My son is afraid and does not want me to leave. I have tried to talk to my son about getting into a better living environment where he can get the help he needs. He does not want to get a different place to live. He wants me to stay here . I have tried to explain to him why I can't. He is worried his dad will tell him to leave if I leave. I feel guilty leaving him because I feel he needs help and won't get it on his own .Also, that unless I stay and that he has no one else to help him and its not a good or safe environment for him. Also, that he will regress and get more depressed , become homeless, and possibly commit suicide. We do not have guardianship over him. I do not have the income to care for him and due to myself having PTSD, etc. feel it is not a good idea. I tried to get my ex to go to family counseling to help my son and he is unwilling. I have spoken to a counselor some , but still feel guilty.