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I believe everybody hates me.

Hi. I'm a 16 year old that like many others at this time, is trying their best to get through quarantine. I feel like I'm in a hopeless state and would appreciate any bit and even the simplest of advice. I wasn't expecting for any of this isolation to happen, and while it did make me realize a lot of things about myself, it has taken a toll on my mental health.

At this point, I am 100% it's not just my hormones, so you can stop blaming those first thing.

I keep thinking that every single person from my daily life hates me. After they say or do the LITTLEST thing, my first response is to overthink everything and instantly think that they hate me because of a certain way they did or said that thing.

When I look back at things I said and did I also think the same thing, that because I said or did that, they now hate me and think I'm weird/actually stupid. The problem is, there are no sings of them ACTUALLY thinking of me like that.

I've gotten to the point where I assume that everyone secretly hates me, even my best friend. I don't know how to make this irrational and overthinking go away, which has led to me feeling emotionally numb/depressed.

I don't know who to talk about it, I don't see why they would listen if they hated me... My parents are out of the question, I know they love me and that I love them, but finding out that their daughter has been having such dark thoughts is the last thing they need to hear right now.

I feel emotionally exhausted and then numb a second later. I can't stand this anymore. I never thought It'd come to this, but now I wonder what would happen if I would be gone...

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Re: I believe everybody hates me.

Hey. Thank you for taking the time to write this. First off, I can really relate to where you're coming from. It is so exhausting having to overthink people's actions towards me. As a result, I became unhealthily skilled at finding ways to minimize my existence so I don't bother anyone. I feared being a burden and others thinking I'm crazy and too weird/awkward. Having gone through this, some posing questions have helped me see things in a better light:

-What do you think people would say if you flat out asked them if they hated you?

-Have you considered the possibility that people aren't as focused on those little things that you are?

-Instead of over complicating things in your head, have you considered voicing your concerns directly to the people who make you feel hated?

Welp, that's all I got. What your feeling is completely understandable, you're not alone, and I wish you the best of luck. It will most likely take time, but I think by questioning your perspective a little and finding ways to act on solid evidence vs in your head might be a good place to start.

PS. This quarantine SUCKS but I swear something good has got to come out of this. It will pass. Take take :)

I was in a similar situation to you a few years ago even though I was 2 years younger than you but I had just an everlasting itching feeling as if people just didn't like me, the littlest thing could set me into paranoia and thinking that they hated me. All I can say to help is that if you think someone hates you, try to think why they could possibly hate you and then try to improve upon that flaw, how can someone hate you if there is nothing to hate. I hope you understand my reasoning. Best wishes