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I didn’t know how to stop it

i had to share a bunk bed with my younger brother. He would masturbate every night for hours it seemed. I’d tell him to keep still as he would shake the bed and it would wake me up.

he would say he just trying to get comfy. I’m a girl by the way. This went on for 6 years.

I tried to tell my mom what he was doing but didn’t know how to say it.

I can’t say anything now as it would ruin so many relationships. But now I suffer with ptsd.



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Re: I didn’t know how to stop it

Actually, blame your actual parents. There are rules about putting siblings in the same room. They should’ve given you a separate room. It was completely inappropriate to put you in the room with a male sibling. You should’ve had separate bedrooms. Six years is a long time to share a room with a growing boy. Children adolescents and young adults need privacy. You should have access to counselling somewhere somehow and I think you should talk to someone about it. Also please tell me you’re not sleeping in the same room with your brother now. If I were you and I have some cousins or grandparents or other relatives with a spare room, I would volunteer to move in with them.

Firstly thank you so much for your replies. You've really helped! Thanks for your kind words.


i haven’t told him or anyone. It’s really messed me up tbh. I have started counselling but Not told them about it yet. I’m scared really scared I don’t want anyone getting in trouble.


I used to think it was my brothers fault but I’m realised it’s my parents.

we were children.

my childhood was great apart from the the home living. my parents would argue a lot and I think they forgot we were getting older.

It has traumatised me. I’ve never spoke to my brother about it in the end I just gave up telling him to keep still. I would get up and go sleep on the sofa most days.


do you think i will feel better once I talk about it.


Yes of course, it’s Something I think about a lot I want my children to have there own rooms and they will!

we have not got children yet but we plan to start soon. its the most important thing I don’t want my children to go through what I went through.


No I have moved out and have my own home with a loving boyfriend. This was a long time ago and it’s the first time I’ve spoke about it to anyone. I’m only just coming to terms with what happened.


yes your completely right it was my parents fault. I was a child and wasn’t to know any different.


it’s only now I’m older I know how wrong that was.

i had to share a bunk bed with my younger brother. He would masturbate every night for hours it seemed. I’d tell him to keep still as he would shake the bed and it would wake me up. 

he would say he just trying to get comfy. I’m a girl by the way. This went on for 6 years. 

I tried to tell my mom what he was doing but didn’t know how to say it. 

I can’t say anything now as it would ruin so many relationships. But now I suffer with ptsd.


girl!!

It’s not your fault! Your a survivor it’s sad how you couldn’t tell anyone. How do you feel now you have wrote it down and said it for the first time?

I’m so happy that you’re okay now. Don’t tell your boyfriend. Please talk to a therapist about this okay? This is not a burden you want to put on your boyfriend. He is not a trained professional counsellor so it’s not his job to help you. I would like you to try very hard and do your very best to see someone who is a professional because I feel like you are this close to healing.


I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m very sorry that you had parents who didn’t think before they acted. The worst part of it is that you think you were fine and then one day it does I knew how messed up your childhood was. I get it. You need to break down in front of someone who can help you get back together again.


If you ever have children, please remember make sure that you plan for them ahead and you have enough space for them in your home. I know times are rough but having children is a huge responsibility and many people don’t think it through.