ANNOYED My parents have a church life group at our house every other week. Their friends come over do a lesson then play games and it's really fun. I am not old enough to be in the lesson part of it but since I live their my mom said I can be down stairs and hang out with them. Most of the time I end up siting by my dad, and everything I do I end up getting annoyed and when I go to bed I cry about him treating me like crap again. I could be on my phone and want to show him a picture but he is ease dropping on other peoples conversation but not actually in one. When I try to get his attention I'm not saying "Dad dad dad" a million times. I am mature about it and wait until he isn't ease dropping. When I finally get his attention he is super annoyed and doesn't care what i'm about to show him or tell him. So I just stop and don't even try.I asked him one time "why do you never listen to me when I am trying to talk to you but when the boys (my brothers) tell you something you instantly start listening?" and he said in a comedic "funny" way "It's because what you are showing me or saying is pointless and useless." and then hits my arm in a comedic way. And ever since he said that I feel very insecure when I want to show people something. It just isn't fair. Every time he is showing me a video or TikTok that he likes I am polite and try not to look annoyed, even if I don't care what he is showing me.When I am downstairs playing games with my family and close friends I can be very extroverted because I am very comfortable. One time when I was having fun my dad just kept huffing and getting super annoyed. I said "What?" in a annoyed way I a\ BEAUTYOne time I was arguing with my brother about washing my face. I was in the back by the sink and my brother said "I need to get back there. How long does it take to wash your face?" and my dad replied "Have you seen her face?" in a funny comedic way. I walked by him and tried to slap him and said "it's not funny" while trying not to cry. And all he said was "It's pretty funny." What kind of father makes fun of how his own daughter looks!One other time my dad, mom and I were talking about my brothers girlfriend. They were talking about how she wasn't wearing makeup that day. And I said something like "She doesn't need make up." and my dad said something like "Hey everyone could use a little make up. Even you could sometimes." and made a scared/disgust face. WHO DOES THAT!HUSBAND People say a son marries someone that is just like his mom and a daughter marries someone just like their dad. Is it bad that I would NEVER want to marry someone like my dad? My dad is selfish, not humble AT ALL, petty, rude, a hypocrite, disrespectful, and thinks he can do whatever he want and say whatever he wants to his own family because he is the father. Fathers are meant to show their daughter how a man is supposed to treat them, and my dad hasn't done that ONE BIT. He treats me like crap and treats my mom like crap. I don't understand how she is still married to him. There are moments that he is a good dad sometimes, but most of the time I never want to talk to him, but I always end up talking to only him and I hate it. I don't respect my father because he doesn't respect me as a human being but I try not to be a disobedient child because I have morals that mostly my mom and my self taught me. I try to be kind and understanding but is so hard to talk to someone that won't change and doesn't think there is anything wrong with them.ARGUMENTS If I told my dad all the stuff I wrote he would make it about himself, and try to prove he is right and I am the one in the wrong. I could try to cry to make him feel bad but I don't want to manipulate him because I have trauma from people manipulating me and I don't want to be a hypocrite. If I talked to my mom about it all she would say is "I'v have been dealing with it ever since I married him, that's just how he is." and would tell me to just not argue and let him be right or he will get mad and I will get in trouble because he is wrong. I'm not gonna live my life and watch my mother cry because her own husband won't change. I hate watching my mother cry and it's my dads fault. But when I try to help my mom she says "Every time we do this we talk about it later and make up" OK if that is true then why do you guys still yell at each other every single day at least once over petty stuff. And I am siting her thinking I'm more mature then both of you, but I can't say that because I will get grounded. I don't know what to do to fix the way I see my father.