my wife is 40 and had a hysterectomy 2 years ago. She is menopausal, but has always had an incredibly short temper. It's becoming unbearable. She says vile, hateful things, constantly criticises our children (6&9), flies off the handle over the smallest tings and escalates it to such upsetting levels, becomes so angry and critical, belittling me all the time. I dont know what to do. When she is 'logical' she sees it, but she veers from fine to furious in a heartbeat. I cant relax because there is always a tiny thing out of my control that can result in the kind of rage that absolutely ruins the day for everyone. It can be crazy stuff, like a car parking near (not even over) our drive, or a van that parks (legally) in her line of sight from her office. Or a lost remote control, or the cat being sick, or a takeaway gettng our order wrong. It's reached the point where I cant relax when things are 'good' because it is only a matter of time before something completely left field blows it out of the water. All the inline resources I can find to help partners of menopausal women are just about sex life or talking about the physicality of things. I just dont want to walk on egg shells in my own house all the time. I dont feel like I have anyone to talk to, I'm sitting alone in my loft after a blazing row about unpacking the shopping that apparently demonstrated what a total arsehole i am. I just dont want to live my own life right now and i dont know how to escape it.