I try to express my feelings. Plenty of times I have attempted to explain thoughts going through my head, uneasy feelings I have, the fact I just do not feel ok. It feels impossible. It is uncomfortable for everyone involved in the conversation. They say “everything will be ok” and move on, choosing not to discuss it for their own comfort. I hear them say “everything will be ok”, understanding they have no interest in discussing it any further. Depression, by far, is the most lonely emotion. There is no way to describe your feelings without disrupting people’s vibes. Nobody wants to be the mope, the negative Nancy that brings down the party. It’s hidden it behind happiness, excitement, and thrill... probably the reason it’s disregarded in the first place. There are ads and promotions attempting to encourage us to reach out, call this number if you’re feeling depressed, speak to friends, speak to family... if only it was that easy. When depression is brought into conversation, it is almost immediately shut down with every reason people can conjure to not be depressed.“Sorry you feel that way”“Just be happy.”“You’ll be fine, everything will be okay.”“Just don’t think about it.”“Just live your life!!! There’s more to life than what you’re feeling now.”“Things may seem bad now but ...”“Imagine if you were ... (insert worst shit that could happen to you)”“There is no reason to have those feelings, it could be so much worse. Your feelings are invalid because plenty of people are in worse circumstances.” Thank you for your understanding... it’s not your fault I feel this way so you have no reason to apologize, I was just making you aware. You’re so right! I will just be happy, I’ll completely disregard my emotions and take your advice. As you know, we are able to just change the way we feel at will. Shouldn’t be too hard. Maybe you feel everything will be fine and we’ll all be okay, but I don’t, that is exactly what I am trying to express to you. Trust me, if I was able to put these thoughts out of my mind, I would. I can’t, any other suggestions? No shit??? Is there more to life than what I’m feeling now? Really? I just let you in on my extremely dark emotions, this is the response you have? Things do seem bad now, I just said that!!! But... are you saying maybe they will get better? What if they don’t? I absolutely understand that there are people in the world that have it much worse than I do, it doesn’t take away from the way I feel. No matter what our circumstances are, we all have different perspectives. I envy people who are able to be truly happy in their circumstances, because it is not like that for everyone. If you have never personally experienced depression, I suggest refraining from comments or suggestions that attempt to invalidate it. Being disregarded makes those emotions that much harder to discuss. Feeling alone is the hardest part of depression, but people assuming our feelings are “irrational” or “exaggerated” makes it almost impossible to express our true emotions.