Im going to assume your IN HS now? I can tell ya that Guys, with their insecurities/low self-esteem, often crave the same female attn. (please laugh at my jokes..LOL) to the point,where they settle for that bare minimum. Lookin WAAAY back on my teenage yrs, Id say GUYS were more filled with self doubt, unassuredness etc. than girls,BUT, we.re good at "covering" for it....(sometimes)....LOL Heck, if a girl , comin down the steps just SMILED at me going up, I thought, OMG, she loves ME! Please, when we pass again, speak to me cause I bees WAY too shy and might say sumpin DUMB..LOL. I wasnt one t the "teasers" but guys will be guys, and ALL Girls were teased/ ridiculed no matter their looks or academic skills.Ugly and Stupid are just mean things said, by insecure boys, and doing it is only way they can feel good about themselves. Work on not taking it to heart.Now the shyness is something YOU can fix, You sound like a young lady with a good heart , who wants to share it so NO MORE of this (Im a POC)(crappy peeps do not have good hearts..LOL)..I hate to "copy& paste" but I wrote to a young lady a while back sharing my perspective on her "mindset" and I think ALOT of it can apply here with you as well. Just some things to think about:
Ill gauarantee ya,theres likely 6-7 guys walkin your halls ,right now, who are too shy and not fwd enough to ask a girl out AND, they're usually the "nice guys", quiet/awkward when around their guys friends ,when girls present.The guys "going after" the pretty girls, and there again when I say "pretty", that can also mean "popular" in the same text, are often the shallow type, after a quick roll in the hay, and will be dating 4-5 of these girls b4 the end of senior yr. You sound like you want a NICE guy. Ya sound like a girl who wants a relationship and will value a guy that has something substantial to offer. This is gonna seem drastic, BUT, these poor NICE guys cannot make the first move, theyre scared of your shadow..LOL. YOUR gonna have to. Ill guarantee ya that THEY, like YOU, seek the same female attn and you do male. Alotta those "pretty girls" you speak of end up spending their whole HS exp in emotional turmoil breaking up,then desperately going from guy to guy seeking that emotional stability they usually never get. Plus, theres all kinds of "Ugly" , theres all kinds of "Pretty" Everyone does not "see" and accept you in the same way. Ive always been partial to the "ivory girl", very little make up, no flashy clothes, lets are inner beauty, like being sweet /nice, shine a beam to attract me rather than outward overkill of appearence to entice/ seduce me. You honestly never know how a person is gonna rate you on a scale of "ugly-----pretty. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle anyway and have physical imperfections, even among those view MOST pretty so???. I challenge you to start noticing the quiet/nice guys,who may be attending a class/ activity you may, or could become interested in, and start making some small talk with these poor guys. Ill guaurantee you , they're waiting. I should know, I was one 75-78..LOL..All the best!