I am a normal guy. However, at 41, I fell in love with and began openly dating our teenage live-in gorgeous au pair. I divorced my shitty frigid vengeful ex wife and left her and three pre-teen kids behind. Yep, I became that guy. So, I dropped off all socials, moved into a tiny apartment I could barely afford, and started working harder than ever. The heaped-on shame and hate I got from my “friends” and the poverty and jail threats I experienced from my ex family despite giving over every cent I ever earned plus some nearly drowned me, at first. My ex-wife has powerful friends who ended up getting my love on the USA’s no-fly list for a bit. Eventually, about 500 days later, my fiancée returned braver than ever to the USA and we married. She was 22 then and I was 45. “It will never last!” said the haters. Read on. We are now many years into a loving, happy and successful marriage. Instead of becoming a cliche loser in a mid-life crisis, I dug deep and started winning at work and in life generally. I became white man woke when I realized I was the most powerful warden in my own self-run prison. I had the keys all along! I hired great lawyers and used the court system to beat down my ex, hard. I rarely slept then in order to stay two steps ahead. I also realized that outperformance is the key in a society where metrics are all that matter. Now I spend a lot of time helping guys lift themselves up - especially Gen X guys who are trapped by their bitchy wives who do nothing but consume social media, outsource their childcare responsibilities, complain vociferously, and live on what I call wedding welfare. When my mentees are ready, I give them the courage and nuts (and off book loans) to help them escape. When I dumped my toxic ex-family I made less than $200k a year. I now make a cool $1 mm+a year! Its not bragging, it’s my truth. Hang in there! Don’t let the haters win. Own them instead. I do.

I am a normal guy. However, at 41, I fell in love with and began openly dating our teenage live-in gorgeous au pair. I divorced my shitty frigid vengeful ex wife and left her and three pre-teen kids behind. Yep, I became that guy. So, I dropped off all socials, moved into a tiny apartment I could barely afford, and started working harder than ever. The heaped-on shame and hate I got from my “friends” and the poverty and jail threats I experienced from my ex family despite giving over every cent I ever earned plus some nearly drowned me, at first.  My ex-wife has powerful friends who ended up getting my love on the USA’s no-fly list for a bit.   Eventually, about 500 days later, my fiancée returned braver than ever to the USA and we married. She was 22 then and I was 45. “It will never last!” said the haters. Read on.We are now many years into a loving, happy and successful marriage. Instead of becoming a cliche loser in a mid-life crisis, I dug deep and started winning at work and in life generally. I became white man woke when I realized I was the most powerful warden in my own self-run prison. I had the keys all along! I hired great lawyers and used the court system to beat down my ex, hard. I rarely slept then in order to stay two steps ahead. I also realized that outperformance is the key in a society where metrics are all that matter. Now I spend a lot of time helping guys lift themselves up - especially Gen X guys who are trapped by their bitchy wives who do nothing but consume social media, outsource their childcare responsibilities, complain vociferously, and live on what I call wedding welfare. When my mentees are ready, I give them the courage and nuts (and off book loans) to help them escape. When I dumped my toxic ex-family I made less than $200k a year. I now make a cool $1 mm+a year!  Its not bragging, it’s my truth. Hang in there! Don’t let the haters win. Own them instead. I do. 