Don't cry to me. I don't know anything more stupid than someone physically abusing you, sadistically, and you go along with it. Its a combination of no self respect, no street smarts and just plain stupidity. If you don't like something, change the situation, move, break up, call the cops. Why are women so helpless? This is out of control. Why are you so desperate for male attention that you just walk into an abusive situation?