I recently found out my boyfriend of 5 months had a secret instagram account where he pretended to be 14 to message girls age 12-15 sexual images. I told my parents because he was staying with us and he got arrested but since then I have been absolutely devastated and heartbroken because I loved him.
We weren’t supposed to have contact because technically I’m the ‘witness’ and so if he contacts me he could get in trouble for ‘witness intimidation’ but recently his friend gave me his number so we were able to chat and now weeks later we are talking like we are still together and I know what he did was wrong but I love him and I truly believe he loves me and we have to wait for the court to decide what happens but I want to be with him but I know my family would disapprove and would hate me for basically accepting what he did which I don’t because it was wrong but he knows he needs help and is willing to get that and whatever punishment he is given.
My family don’t know we are in contact so we plan to meet in secret when we go back to uni. My best friend knows about the contact but wants me to stop and says she would not let me be with him if I chose to be after what he did to me and those other girls too. I know she is looking out for me and I do know I deserve better but I love him and I know after this he will be better and never do a thing like that again.
What do I do??? Do I cut him out of my life completely or do I stay with him and eventually in the future tell my family?