I threw my boyfriend a bday party with my sister and friend on his request. (we are all one COVID bubble and can’t see anyone else). Suggested a while back board games and drinks which he was v keen for, we both enjoy a bev. I put in a lot of effort into decorations/plans, they both swapped out of shifts to be free and we all got excited about having a fun rowdy drunken night together.Despite being aware of this plan, the weekend prior he organised zoom drinks and board games with his sister and friend. He got very drunk, they played the exact same I had ordered for his party and all had a great night (& were very hungover the next day).He came to the party a few days later at ours late, said hardly anything all night, didn’t drink anything and essentially the party was a flop. As there was only 4 of us there, the effect he had on the mood was really noticeable and despite my friend trying very hard to converse he wasn’t giving anything back. I was embarrassed.He can be a little quiet with new people but is VERY much a sociable person who has no issues when it’s his friends/family. Essentially I’m upset because this albeit very petty issue, is another example of a pattern of behaviour. I make huge efforts with his friends and family, even drove 4hrs straight after a set of night shifts to meet 13 of his old uni mates for a big party. That’s an overwhelming social situation that he walked off and left me in as soo mad arriving. I’m good with people so handled it ok but I really couldn’t be bothered drinking that night either - but I did as I wanted to make a good impression on his friends. Whereas with mine, he consistently stays quiet and doesn’t bother making conversation which I know he is more than capable of doing.I know I’m with the right person but it upsets me that he doesn’t appear to put me, my family or my friends in his priorities at all. I appreciate I’m cross at him for essentially playing the game I had planned with his own friends (so was therefore uninterested with mine) & drank with his (therefore didn’t want to with mine) & that in itself is an immature complaint.But I can’t help but think about the time I spent getting the game it delivered in time, setting up a cocktail bar for his little party, blowing up balloons, asking my friends to swap shifts. All on his request. i want him to make the efforts with my friends that I do with his and be more sociable and chatty. I want them to see what I see in him. But honestly he has given them no reason to believe he isn’t an aloof, self absorbed guy from his lack of interest in them. I know he isn’t but he says he isn’t as comfortable with them as he is his own friends and never will be. I just can’t accept that every weekend away we go on with people will have to be with his friends not mine. And bringing him to an event with my friends will cause him such stress and anxiety every time.