I have an issue, not so serious, but it's not something I can easily talk about since I'm really introverted normally I guess. I've only had like a single crush in my whole life and that feeling ended because the person moved away so IDK if I'll feel the same the next time I see them which brings me to my main issue. I currently have someone that I might be developing a bit of a crush on. It's a problem because I've not really decided on if I'm truly over the other guy, and sure chatting is an option and all that, but it's not the same as seeing someone in person and knowing how strong of an attraction you have to them in the early stages. It would be different if the relationship developed a bit and I feel this way, but we really aren't at that stage yet. And I'm not interested in starting something with someone that I might never see again most likely. And this person I'm developing a crush on (not real feelings because it feels really odd to me) is a person I never noticed before. Someone was just venting to me and telling me how attractive she thought the person was and all that but at the time I didn't pay attention to it really. Then suddenly after a few weeks, I saw the person more and more, maybe it's because I was made aware of his existence and it got fixed in my subconscious. Suddenly even though I didn't agree with my friend when she called him hot and all that, I started seeing it a bit more. Especially since if I was younger or rather growing up, he would have been my type. It's just that as I got older I became more book centric and focused more on personality because of them so I stopped having a type. Right now, I don't plan on doing anything, nor do I plan on pursuing it ever, it's just me for the first time really putting how I feel into words. IDK if my crush will develop into something more, but my sense is telling me to put myself in his shoes and act how I would want someone to act towards me. It's like when someone sends messages and flowers and gifts or visits constantly to a famous person's house there is a sense of entitlement towards the famous person and an expectation is placed on them to reciprocate those feelings, but if a rando person does that same thing to those fans it would be stalkerish. I'm using that to guide my judgement. I don't want to do anything that makes him uncomfortable or put him in a place that feels okay to me because of a sense of entitlement that crushes tend to develop towards the object of their affection. I'm not even sure if I want to pursue a friendly relationship because it might cause me to lose reason because of how I feel and cause me to develop and unwarranted sense of possessiveness and a dislike for anyone else that steals his attention. Maybe I think to much and by the time we become friends my feelings will fade. Maybe I don't even really have a crush and I'm just curious because of my friend but my brain isn't translating my feelings to me properly and hormones are messing me up. But out of respect for him and out of fear I guess on my part I guess, I guess that's a chance I'm not yet ready to take until I develop more self-control.