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idk if i’m lesbian or bi. i’ve felt feelings for boys before but i’ve also felt stronger feelings for girls. i haven’t had a crush on a boy in forever. i came out as bi a couple of years ago and months after i came out as lesbian. with lots of thinking i’ve decided that i don’t want to associate with labels but idk if i need to come out to everyone again. at this point i feel like they will just think i’m lying and doing this all for attention. i promise i’m not but i’ve never been more confused about my sexuality and idk anyone to talk to about it. writing it down tho does make me feel a lot better.



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i feel the exact same way. i definitely prefer women but men are ok sometimes? but maybe it’s internal homophobia? anyway, you are valid!! sexuality is incredibly confusing especially when there is so much pressure to be sure of the label you present yourself with. I am personally out as bi but feel more comfortable with the term queer.

This is really long, but I just wanted to follow up with you. So I haven't been in that exact situation, but many years ago I came out to everyone that I was a lesbian with no trouble whatsoever. I felt really comfortable with it and so did the people around me. That is, until I discovered I liked boys as well. It took me a couple of days to sort it out, but eventually I decided I was most comfortable labeling myself as bi. I decided to re-come out to everyone, and most of them were cool with it, congratulated me for a couple of minutes, and moved on with their lives. Now, that's my personal story to let you know that you're definitely not alone in figuring out who you are and how you want others to perceive you. I can't say for certain the people around you will be as nonchalant because I don't know them, but I will say what you're going through isn't any kind of attention-seeking behavior, and if they are truly meant to be in your life, they'll recognize it and give you the exact response you want and deserve. Also, don't worry about having/not having a label. It doesn't make you any more or less valid as a member of this community and as a person. I encourage you to keep exploring who you are until you finally feel truly comfortable in your identity, and I may not personally know you, but I am so proud of the journey you are taking and I want you to be just as proud.