My husband always washes his clothes but not mine. I always tidy the house.I make all the family appointments for medical, dental, vision, parent teacher conferences. I make all the financial decisions.I pay all the bills.I'm responsible for our financial security and retirement planning. I check the kid's bags afterschool for homework. I help the kids with homework. I get the kids ready in the morning. I make sure the cars get in to the shop. I make all the calls for everything...septic backup, vacation rentals, all of it.I plan family vacations...all of it.And I deal with all of the kids' complaints and issues...he gets involved only when I've blown my top because it's too much. My husband does cook dinner every night and makes himself and the girls hair appointments. There's more, but I'm just fucking tired. I have depression, fatter than I used to be, exhausted. Just wondering what the fuck I can do to change this shit. The second I become unstable....guess what, so does my husband. I'm sick....guess what, so is he. My knee hurts....omg what a coincidence, his hurts too!!! I can't even have my own fucking feelings because he has them too. I can't falter because he does too, there's no one to pick up the slack for me if I'm down. It just waits for me. FUUUUUUCCCCKKKKK. What the fuck is going on here?!?!?!? Someone help.