I really need help on what I should do. I really wanna be a girly girl, and dress like a girl, but I’ve been a tomboy my whole life. My friends seem to act different around me when I dress like a girl, even though I’m a girl. They seem to not talk to me as much, and they don’t seem as comfortable. But I’m 15 now, and I realized that skirts, shorts, dresses, etc are really cute. But I’ve always dressed like a boy, or like a gothic dark type, because I feel like that’s what people would accept me as. When I dress girly, I feel less respected by my friends, and less accepted too. Most of my friends are boys, some of them are girls, but the girls are also tomboys. When I dress girly, I feel like an outcast with my friends. So I force myself to dress like a guy, or in dark clothes just to please others. All my guy friends see me as “one of the guys” and I don’t want that to change. But I’ve realized that even my crush thinks of me as “one of the guys”. And I’m seeing him next week for the first time in almost 5 months! So I don’t know whether I should dress like a boy, to please my friends, or dress girly and maybe get my crush’s attention? But what if he also gets uncomfortable with me too? He’s one of my best friends, and I don’t want to loose that “one of the guys” friendship I have with him. So there’s my question, do I dress how I want to dress, and what I feel good in, or do I dress like a boy to fit in with and please my friends? Any advice?
Re: My Decisions
I just have one thing to tell you sweetheart. If you keep thinking about other people's opinions and how to please them, you'll never be happy. Because whatever you do, there will still be people who won't like that. I understand that you don't want to lose the friendship you have with the boys and everything. But the question you asked is wrong. You don't know whether you want to dress as a tomboy and please your friends or dress as a girly girl and get your crush's attention which is wrong, honey, you have to please yourself first. If you're comfortable or feel good with something, your friends should accept you the way you are and if they don't it's their problem not yours. So do what you like and don't care about others