so.. I'm still in middle school 7th grade and I've been dating this guy for like almost 3 weeks now. and I know what your thinking right now, middle school relationships are not serious and most last for less than a month. but I really like this guy but the problem is that we became friends over text and I cant seem to talk to him in person, before we started dating we would always text and I tried to talk to him at school but i could't bring myself to talk to him since hes got that aura that makes him so unapproachable but hes very fun to talk to over text. I started liking him and like a week before valentines day he asked me out. but its weird because we could only talk to each other over text but its awkward between us at school and I haven't really talked to him in person. I know communication is the most important in a relationship but I get so nervous to talk to him, we didn't talk for 5 days after valentines, and this time I would always be the one starting the conversation first, and the last time i talked to him was 4 days ago. I'm scared that he actually doesn't have feeling for me and I'm the only one wanting this relationship to work out. but what I'm really wishing for is this relationship to work out and id have the courage to talk to him. IDK its messed up

so.. I'm still in middle school 7th grade and I've been dating this guy for like almost 3 weeks now. and I know what your thinking right now, middle school relationships are not serious and most last for less than a month. but I really like this guy but the problem is that we became friends over text and I cant seem to talk to him in person, before we started dating we would always text and I tried to talk to him at school but i could't bring myself to talk to him since hes got that aura that makes him so unapproachable but hes very fun to talk to over text. I started liking him and like a week before valentines day he asked me out. but its weird because we could only talk to each other over text but its awkward between us at school and I haven't really talked to him in person. I know communication is the most important in a relationship but I get so nervous to talk to him, we didn't talk for 5 days after valentines, and this time I would always be the one starting the conversation first, and the last time i talked to him was 4 days ago. I'm scared that he actually doesn't have feeling for me and I'm the only one wanting this relationship to work out. but what I'm really wishing for is this relationship to work out and id have the courage to talk to him. IDK its messed up

Relax, enjoy this moment and the ride.Everything will fall in place together, you can't rush a masterpiece.Make it fun, we don't have the chance to discover someone twice in our life. If the person is a bit hard approach let him approach you. You never know the story of a person or why they are the way they are. Just take it easy, and enjoy what you have at the current moment. I am sure he like you a lot too.

Relax, enjoy this moment and the ride.Everything will fall in place together, you can't rush a masterpiece.Make it fun, we don't have the chance to discover someone twice in our life. If the person is a bit hard approach let him approach you.You never know the story of a person or why they are the way they are. Just take it easy, and enjoy what you have at the current moment. I am sure he like you a lot too.

Re: my first relationship

Girl/boy idk (not gonna assume) if he's not putting in the effort step back for a bit and watch what he does. Does he come back to you? Or does he not care? You might like the dude but you're gonna end up hurt if it keeps going because you expect so much from him. And before you "step back" talk to him idc how awkward weird it is you're in a relationship talk it out if you don't there isn't really a point of you being in one. There are so many different reasons why he's like that you'll never find out until you ask. And if it's a douche reason like "I don't want people to know we're together." drop him. Idk if this helped but yea

Girl/boy idk (not gonna assume) if he's not putting in the effort step back for a bit and watch what he does. Does he come back to you? Or does he not care? You might like the dude but you're gonna end up hurt if it keeps going because you expect so much from him. And before you "step back" talk to him idc how awkward weird it is you're in a relationship talk it out if you don't there isn't really a point of you being in one. There are so many different reasons why he's like that you'll never find out until you ask. And if it's a douche reason like "I don't want people to know we're together." drop him. Idk if this helped but yea

Oh girl, I wont be the one to say JR HIGH LUV cant be a deep , meaningful emotional connection.. Now ,I WILL SAY, its one that can sometimes use "poor judgement" , one that takes for granted the everchanging hormonal mood swings for girls / and developing "male ego" for guys, who's frontal lobe (cortex) isnt developed yet causing him to "go off the deep end" not gettin his way... (I CAN TEST TI FY...LOL)...OMG! girl you should seen the things I did, ways I acted in the NAME of LOVE..At 14, I was lookin down the block at the missing station wagon (a 70s car..LOL), meaning my GF had to to the grand parents for the WHOLE WEEKEND!..OMG! ... I was sittin on the porch about to CRY, wantin to be wih her, with that constant ACHE in my chest. SO.... BY GOD... I packed 4 sammiches, 2 canteens of waters , hop on my fairly NEW Schwinn Varsity 10 spd, and rode 37 mi to the town where they lived askin at the first gas station Isaw if they new where her grand parents lived (luckily I had met then at a BBQ months before) and they DID KNOW so, when I got there, SHE was tickle to death to see me, BUT?.... The parents were NOT amused..LOL. We dated for 3 yrs till I started drinkin at 17 , and KILLED her love for me :(Now, i told ya that story to show what can happen when you IN love BUT?, I gotta tell ya, I was LIKELY alot like YOUR boy to start being "most certainly" insecure cause I can tell ya for FACT, that ALL teen boys 12-17 (maybe 16?) ARE INSECURE when it comes to girls.. I dont care how much they act a goofball, beat their chest with male ego pride, act tough kickin ass / takin names, when that boy gets one on one with his crush, he turns into a MESS...LOL..That was ME , in the beginning as well..LOL...Look , He's aleady put a foot fwd in askin you out...right?.. Thats a BIG STEP for a 13-14 yr old "guy"..YOU are likely MORE secure ,in who you are, as a young woman, than HE is as a guy, who could handle a "love interest"...Now, I gotta warn ya.. I guy that age will often "down play" his emotions, which are in constant conflict with the ever so fragile "male ego"...Guy will often act a GOOFBALL, cover up emtions with "subterfuge", tell a joke, laughin nervously at NOTHIN..LOL, and yes even be MEAN , in a light hearted way so DONT project, DONT over think, he act like he really likes ya one min. THEN , go from jecke to hide, possibly ingnoring ya alilttle outta fear he'll be "found out" as to his TRUE level of crushing...Its MESS I know..LOL.. Im gettin a good vibe here though..In the 70s, it was ALWAYS direct face to face interaction accept for the ocassional note passing which DID happen from like one girl in 5th period to a guy in the same class 6th period so it could be kept as SECRET as possible..LOL.. We had invisable INK as well, with only one person having the revealing "solution"..LOLIts sad you guys have been DE naturalized with all this impersonal TEXTING which I HATE.(oh no BOOMER alert..LOL).. It sends MIXED messages indiscriminately, unintenionally, and causes 2nd GUESSING, projecting, assuming, OVER THINKING which REALLLLLLY has your generation by the short hairs...So BE CAREFUL try NOT to do ANY of what I just mentioned... The CAT has both of your tonugue's here so thats GOOD ... its mutual....That poor boy ,Ill bet has it BAD for ya and its so sad , he cant be VERY FUN in his own personna. Its not his OR your fault's girl ,you've been "socially engineered" to behave this way... so sad!!!... BUT?, I honestly think YOU ...are gonna have to take the reigns and assume the "lead"..Im beetin that poor boy was a WRECK during those periods of non contact.. IDK? I just feel it...I really think he''s outta his element and looks to YOU so take things where they "need" to go...You gotta get rid of this "unapproachable" vibe cause YOU ARE gonna have to RE approach him in person I think...THEN, heres where it gets critical... Ya gotta watch his EYES.. if he's truly into you, he'll give you a "LOOK" , he wont even be aware he's GIVING, that will be an unmistakable CLUE, that he's crushin.. He wont be able to conceal it.....NOW, IF ya get that, take your hand, and ever so slightly "brush" his arm...OMG! , if he's truly crushin, that brush will be like 50-60 volts coersing thru his young ass..LOL... He'll be WOKE ! .. Make constant EYE contact.. Watch his Body language as well..I was always nervous, squirmish, shiftin one foot to the other, lookin down BUT?... thats sounds like being uncomfortable BUT? in reality, I was CRUSHIN HARD HARD...LOL...The girl I rode 37 mi to see REALLY got me outta that stage.. Maybe YOU can put the ZAP on this boy?...Yeah, keep leading the texts and keepin the convos going BUT?, your gonna have to find his emotional "where abouts".... SOON...... right?...I might be able to help ya devise a plan of attack to corner his ass, away from "groups" (his sanctuary) to get that "sensory perceptive" "answer"... Whens the next "chance meeting" gonna take place?

Oh girl, I wont be the one to say JR HIGH LUV cant be a deep , meaningful emotional connection.. Now ,I WILL SAY, its one that can sometimes use "poor judgement" , one that takes for granted the  everchanging hormonal mood swings for girls / and developing "male ego" for guys, who's frontal lobe (cortex) isnt developed yet causing him to "go off the deep end" not gettin his way... (I CAN TEST TI FY...LOL)...OMG! girl you should seen the things I did, ways I acted in the NAME of LOVE..At 14, I was lookin down the block at the missing station wagon (a 70s car..LOL), meaning my GF had to to the grand parents for the WHOLE WEEKEND!..OMG! ... I was sittin on the porch about to CRY, wantin to be wih her, with that constant ACHE in my chest. SO.... BY GOD... I packed 4 sammiches, 2 canteens of waters , hop on my fairly NEW Schwinn Varsity 10 spd, and rode 37 mi to the town where they lived askin at the first gas station Isaw if they new where her grand parents lived (luckily I had met then at a BBQ months before) and they DID KNOW so, when I got there, SHE was tickle to death to see me, BUT?.... The parents were NOT amused..LOL. We dated for 3 yrs till I started drinkin at 17 , and KILLED her love for me :(Now, i told ya that story to show what can happen when you IN love BUT?, I gotta tell ya, I was LIKELY alot like YOUR boy to start being "most certainly" insecure cause I can tell ya for FACT, that ALL teen boys 12-17 (maybe 16?) ARE INSECURE when it comes to girls.. I dont care how much they act a goofball, beat their chest with male ego pride, act tough kickin ass / takin names, when that boy gets one on one with his crush, he turns into a MESS...LOL..That was ME , in the beginning as well..LOL...Look , He's aleady put a foot fwd in askin you out...right?.. Thats a BIG STEP for a 13-14 yr old "guy"..YOU are likely MORE secure ,in who you are, as a young woman, than HE is as a guy, who could handle a "love interest"...Now, I gotta warn ya.. I guy that age will often "down play" his emotions, which are in constant conflict with the ever so fragile "male ego"...Guy will often act a GOOFBALL, cover up emtions with "subterfuge", tell a joke, laughin nervously at  NOTHIN..LOL, and yes even be MEAN , in a light hearted way so DONT project, DONT over think, he act like he really likes ya one min. THEN , go from jecke to hide, possibly ingnoring ya alilttle outta fear he'll be "found out" as to his TRUE level of crushing...Its MESS I know..LOL.. Im gettin a good vibe here though..In the 70s, it was ALWAYS direct face to face interaction accept for the ocassional note passing which DID happen from like one girl in 5th period to a guy in the same class 6th period so it could be kept as SECRET as possible..LOL.. We had invisable INK as well, with only one person having the revealing "solution"..LOLIts sad you guys have been DE naturalized with all this impersonal TEXTING which I HATE.(oh no BOOMER alert..LOL).. It sends MIXED messages indiscriminately, unintenionally, and causes 2nd GUESSING, projecting, assuming, OVER THINKING which REALLLLLLY has your generation by the short hairs...So BE CAREFUL try NOT to do ANY of what I just mentioned... The CAT has both of your tonugue's here so thats GOOD ... its mutual....That poor boy ,Ill bet has it BAD for ya and its so sad , he cant be VERY FUN in his own personna. Its not his OR your fault's girl ,you've been "socially engineered" to behave this way... so sad!!!... BUT?, I honestly think YOU ...are gonna have to take the reigns and assume the "lead"..Im beetin that poor boy was a WRECK during those periods of non contact.. IDK? I just feel it...I really think he''s outta his element and looks to YOU so take things where they "need" to go...You gotta get rid of this "unapproachable" vibe cause YOU ARE gonna have to  RE approach him in person I think...THEN, heres where it gets critical... Ya gotta watch his EYES.. if he's truly into you, he'll give you a "LOOK" , he wont even be aware he's GIVING, that will be an unmistakable CLUE, that he's crushin.. He wont be able to conceal it.....NOW, IF ya get that, take your hand, and ever so slightly "brush" his arm...OMG! , if he's truly crushin, that brush will be like 50-60 volts coersing thru his young ass..LOL... He'll be WOKE ! .. Make constant EYE contact.. Watch his Body language as well..I was always nervous, squirmish, shiftin one foot to the other, lookin down BUT?... thats sounds like being uncomfortable BUT? in reality, I was CRUSHIN HARD HARD...LOL...The girl I rode 37 mi to see REALLY got me outta that stage.. Maybe YOU can put the ZAP on this boy?...Yeah, keep leading the texts and keepin the convos going BUT?, your gonna have to find his emotional "where abouts".... SOON...... right?...I might be able to help ya devise a plan of attack to corner his ass, away from "groups" (his sanctuary) to get that "sensory perceptive" "answer"... Whens the next "chance meeting" gonna take place?