I have been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years now. When quarantine hit we were not able to see eachother for months. During this time my girlfriend gained over 100 pounds. I was shocked to see how bad it had gotten. She’s very insecure about it and it reflects in her daily life. She is very mean to me and is sometimes cruel to me which is devastating because she would rarely even raise her voice at me before. My girlfriend has always been the most beautiful thing in the world to me, but I would be lying to say this does not change the level of physical attraction I have for her. It makes me feel terrible inside, like a cruel, terrible, selfish person. I love this girl with all of my heart and it just upsets me so much because it is like she is wasting her potential. It feels like she is a completely different person than before. I tried politely bringing up changing her habits and offering her to come workout and exercise with me. When I did she told me that I was toxic. That I was a manipulator and I didn’t care about her and I didn’t love her anymore. But the only reason I said anything is because I feel like she has the potential to be so much more. To be everything she dreams of yet she refuses to take any steps towards her dreams and instead continues making choices to further herself from them. I am a very logical person so I just don’t understand why you would not work towards something you yearn and desire for all the time. Especially when you hate the situation you are in. She is incredibly unhappy with herself and she takes it out on me. I feel cheated. I feel like the girl I fell in love with was taken from me. But yet I still love her with all of my heart. I know that if she were able to achieve her goals she would be so much happier. I’m not sure if I am a man who just wants the best for his significant other or if I am a someone who is toxic to their significant other and selfish when it comes to what I should expect of my partner. I could never imagine leaving this girl and I don’t plan to, but I want to be happy again. I want the fighting to stop. I want her to love me again. I want her to not take her anger out on me. I want her to not limit us because she is not confident doing something or going somewhere. I don’t want her to cry Everytime we go somewhere because she is so upset with the way she looks. But yet when I try to fix these issues I am considered an asshole. I just don’t understand what to do. I just want my girlfriend back.