I love my husband but...I know he is not the one for me. We live a happy life together and are comfortable with each other but it often feels like we are just roommates.We have nothing in common and our communication is very difficult due to a language barrier. When we do have an issue we don't ever fight and never resolve the issue due to that barrier. He just refuses to speak and eventually we both stop thinking about it.I crave to have a deeper connection with someone and I think about it everyday. I day dream about being with someone else constantly. However my marriage is still a pleasant one overall and when I think of divorce and throwing everything we've built together away, I feel such deep sadness. He's a good person. He's honest and trustworthy and a big kid at heart. On the flip side he expects me to cook, clean and wait on him hand and foot, while I also work full time. He was raised in a house hold with stereotypical gender roles and that's what he believes and I would be fine with that but he doesn't withhold his end of those roles. E.G. breadwinner, head of house hold, handyman..etc He also has a very quick temper and I can never express my feelings without him becoming angry and refusing to speak to me. He is never wrong and I walk on egg shells all the time.Something is missing and I know he feels the same. We're both the type people who settle. We dated long enough where marriage was the natural next step and we've both just settled for how it is. I'm 27 now and I've spent almost my entire 20s with him. I've held back on having children because I use the excuse that we're not ready or that I don't want children at all.Its more that I just don't want children with him.I'm scared to separate and I'm scared not to.I sometimes wish it would get bad so that divorce would feel justified.Our lives are completely intertwined. We bought a home together. We have our fur babies which we both adore. We love each other's families. We love each other.We're just not in love with each other.I could continue on and have a steady and pleasant marriage but always feel something is missing, feeling regret. Or I could walk away in search for what/who I really want even though its a huge risk. I've always been scared of change. If we separated I'd have to sell our house. The house is technically mine but I wouldn't want to be here if him and I were not together. We'd go through the process of separating our things. Who would get which pet? I'd have to get a new job since we also work together. It would literally change our entire lives and that's terrifying and feels so selfish of me.I've never expressed how I really feel to anyone. I don't have close friends and I don't share anything in regards to my marriage with my family. As far as anyone knows we're the perfect happy couple.