I know thats a very boomer title but im 19 I swear jdskljkhsdl.I'm just saying this because I am realizing I tend to overshare on social media, and I have a tendency to also want to listen and help other people. Anyways, I made a discord to talk about star wars recently and this one 16 year old admin ( I should've been more strict with admin ages, ik.) kept messaging me separately and would like,, draw things and write things as gifts for me and lowkey obsessed over me as a person. She also struggles with BPD and depression and would often vent to me and the other admins (and me directly) about stuff. She kept having concerning things in her status that gave the notion that she was going to hurt or kill herself, and whenever I saw those, I would check up on her. But, turns out me checking in enabled her to get attached. She started seeing me as like... her savior and stuff like that. And was like. really obsessed with me. She kept saying how I "saved her life" and I was "one of the only people [she] can trust". It made me scared to back out but then like I came to the realization that this young person was dependent on me so I had to back off but that caused her a lot of emotional distress. Anyways. It was a lot of mutual miscommunication but I just wanna say like. You can check in on people but do not make yourself/let yourself become responsible for someone else's mental health. As the older person, it was my job to avoid this type of situation but I was blinded by her being so kind to me and shit like that. Just. Be careful. Whether you are older or younger or whatever. You are not responsible for stopping someone else's suicidal thoughts. You do not have to talk to someone just because they talk to you. Manipulation can be unintentional. it can be mutual. but try your best to see the signs of it and back out as soon as you can.