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Rape and sexual abuse- the problem with silence



When we hear of rape we expect victims to be vocal to help them on their journey, to ease their pain and suffering, to understand them better and to ensure it doesn’t happen again. But what if for years you’ve been silenced? Silenced because it’s TOO shameful to talk about in your community. Embarrassing because there is heightened misogyny in your community and that the victim might be blamed instead. This is a problem that many Asians face nowadays.


Rape, sexual assault or abuse in any form is NEVER the victims fault. The problem with silence is that manifests and grows bigger and affects the victim in day to day life in so many aspects that we don’t understand. It manifests and creates a bigger problem, it creates someone who has no one to talk about it without fear of judgement. Silence can never be good for a victim. It does not allow the victim to emotionally heal. It creates anger and anguish. It creates deep resentment to those who are wishing to silence the victim. Why should they be silenced on something that was NEVER their fault? They shouldn’t. The way to eliminate this to help victims recover is by listening. Do not compare your life situation. Just listen with your ears. Even if it hurts so much and you don’t understand. All you can do is listen. The victim just wants to talk. The tiny voice inside will slowly build and the confidence to talk to someone professional will grow. To all my victims- don’t be silenced. Don’t live with something that you deem as shameful. What happened to you doesn’t mean you were in the wrong place wearing the wrong things. It just means the person you were with was not trustworthy.

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Re: Rape and sexual abuse- the problem with silence

It’s amazing that you are raising awareness and telling victims that they are not alone, truly incredible.


The main question is, are you okay? How are you dealing with things? You don’t always have to be strong, you are allowed to be sad? I hope you are okay but it’s okay if you aren’t.


you sound like a really supportive person, but you also sound like you don’t have enough support in you life either.

Maybe take some time for yourself and focus on how to make yourself feel better. If you don’t feel good there is no way you can help other people to the best of your ability.


Its good to stand up and allow your voice to be heard, but when you are suffering as a result, it may be detrimental to your mental and physical health.


we are all in this together, focus on you, you deserve it!