Thankfully never been there; but I love that place. I tell you what’s funny. I had a big fancy job. They’d match part of your donations. This one lady who seemed to never work was always trying to ask what I donated too. I wouldn’t tell. My gifts were to God. Same for tithing. Not in the Bible. If Church was doing well I gave a minimum. I felt pastor shouldn’t be taking fancy vacations & stuff. He’d try to pressure old people into giving the Church their $ & homes instead of leaving to their kids. They’d build up the stuff for old people. Ignore the kids. Gotta milk those old people worried about getting into Heaven. But Saint Jude’s is a great place to help. Homeless shelters. Centers for abused women & children. Places that give wheel chairs to children. Autism centers (that one became a real one for me). Cancer research & stuff are awesome. I usually liked to pick small local things I knew I could directly affect. My kids bag food for poor children. Which they now are themselves LOL. Someone has to. I used to try to fix stuff for others. There’s all kinds of ways. If you spend some of your time helping others; you think less about yourself. Helps control depression. Just don’t be like my wife. She’d give till it affected us. Example. I have nothing. She can’t pay the bills. Kids; she, & I needed fans as they try save $ & I live in a room with no heat or air. We pool our $ & buy 3 nice economical ones. Two boys took. Daughter know we need so she pass. Was supposed be hers. She gave it up for one us. In fairness to my boys they are built like juggernaut; hairy; work out. Hard to cool off. Plus one is autistic. Other goes out & mows yard & stuff. So I passed so ex could have it. Yes I have no air but they don’t know that. I’m worried for ex. I go down to fix her toilet. She’s sick. I say where’s your fan? She gave it to a college girl in our Church. Hey. I know the girl lives in a cheap apartment. But my ex is near death right now. So I passed on some of my food for a month. Bought a cheap fan. Painted sons name on top. Said this fan is only for you to paint things. I told my ex he doesn’t need it all the time. You can borrow it when he’s not painting. She needed an N95 for work. I buy 2. Give her mine & all my extra filters. She’s having trouble breathing in this reusable one. So I shop till I find a used high end one. I fix it. Buy the carbon filters new. Sanitize it. I give it to my son. His Christmas. Needs it to paint. But hey. He doesn’t paint on week days. Ex can adjust straps & wear to work. But it’s his. Can’t give away to some poor woman at work who really needs one but can’t afford it. People catch onto her nature & use her. Does she wear it? Don’t know. But it’s there. My oldest got dog tags. I bought them used. Hand engraved my self. Hand painted. He needed them. Medical. $50 each new. I spent like $3 each. My daughter really got hosed. I bought her a dremel. Etched dog tags. Now teaching them to grind tiny areas on metal. Bought metal paint. Teach them if they want. I intended to teach them a lot. But never there now. They either want to go learn or they don’t. I used have time. Now I drive from another state. So time is short. My broke body gives out fast. My ex is asking to delay some outside stuff till next spring. I barely survived last winter with no heat. I don’t think I’ll be here next spring with all my internal damage. I just smile & say you may want to do it now. I may be sick again next spring. You know I get sick a lot. She used to talk about the future. Now she doesn’t. Neither of us probably has one. I had her a large house paid off. I remodeled it. Had $ saved. Cars paid off. House full of nice stuff. Worked 70 hrs a wk for yrs to do that. I get sick. Nearly die. Her mom convinced her to sell it & go in massive debt. Here’s a hint kids. If you build a new house in old neighborhood it devalues. If you spend a fortune on fancy upgrades it doesn’t really raise houses value 10 yrs later. You don’t need a bathroom you can put a car in. 15 ft ceilings. Italian marble. Giant crown molding on every ceiling. A whirlpool that seats 2. On & on. Waste. All that fancy crap is now stuff I’m having to fix because it’s impractical. Also. If they bus section 8 gang members to schools then the schools are less valuable. That makes homes less valuable. People don’t want to pay out the nose for a house & taxes to have their kids attacked at school. Well now that I’m gone she’s learning her mom is full of crap. Her parents promised to help her if she divorced. Hire people to fix house. Pay for lawn maintenance. Help with house payment. All lies. They are getting their way. The kids were going to get scholarships. One was going to buy house. Autistic son live there. Now two are going into military because her mom says they must leave at 18 like she did. Her mom says have to let go & let them live. Her mom is full of chit. Men paid her way. Her dad paid for her college. She never paid for that life. When she had kids they raised themselves. Only my ex kisses her butt. It she’s being used. Her plan now is to buy a tiny town house near her mom so she can go take care or her mom each day. Right. When her moms parents got sick. We went & helped them. Her mom was retired & refused to move close or help. They only moved here so my ex & kids could do all their cooking; shopping; cleaning. They have more $. Her step dad is my age. No diseases. They play tennis. Vacation endlessly. Could hire a maid. Could clean own house & cook for selves. Why is my ex sick & still scrubbing their floors? Cause she’s a moron. They won’t have much left way they live. What they do have goes to his kids & the Church LOL. Her mom got mad cause her dad left his grandkids each a little $. Says shoulda been all hers. Tells her kids they already got theirs. She’s leaving hers to his kids & Church LOL. Trying buy that last ticket. Makes me laugh. Had she been good to ex. She kicked her husband out. He’s been happily remarried ever since. She went thru men like toilet paper. One of daughters is same way. She refused to cook or clean. Still refuses. Won’t do it. Won’t shop. She did do well in business. But crap mom. Kids on their own. My ex suddenly decided our kids needed new path when she moved close. Forget sports & college. At 18 they need leave house & find own way. Oh yeah. Our kids are a mess. Her sorry a$$ mom’s plan is chit. I straightened my wife’s life out when we married. She kicked my wife out at 16. Said go live. Her mom is horrible.