a friend of mine is depressed and i'm really scared for them. they've been depressed for a while now, but it's getting pretty bad. i've spent countless hours texting and trying to convince them that they are in fact a good person and a good friend, and yet every paragraph i write is dismissed with a single "wrong" or "untrue", or a really god damn dark joke that idk how i'm supposed to react to. it's obv not /funny/ but if i try to say something against it, i'm immediately shut up. i hate this cycle, and i'm terrified they're getting more depressed. other friends have also tried, but they just ignore any thoughtful and well crafted appreciation. ik it's selfish and wrong, but it gets hard to deal with when they ignore everything in favor of demeaning themself. i have to reach out personally and keep arguing and asking questions, trying for hours on end to show them how good they are, but nothing seems to ever work. and it's really scary to be in the moment, and i feel like i often escalate things instead of solving the issue. i want to help, but if they keep ignoring my help and send me spiraling with anxiety and fear idk how much help i'll be. i don't want to lose this person, but i can't seem to help. it's wrong to compare them to others, but other people seem to be able to accept praise and compliments without turning it into hours of debate. i understand they're struggling with things and i want to help, and ik it's wrong to expect this stuff to be /easy/ but still. it makes me miserable the rest of the day and i'm put in a bad mood, and it's not their fault but i wish they could see reason and all.