my mom encourages me to share my clothes with my cousin. ye, just because i have a lot of clothes doesn't mean i HAVE to share. I share because I want to. So, i fucking prepare, and choose what i wanna give her. My principle is, I share something that the receiver would be happy to have it, and they can wear and style it. I hope they'll like it as much as i do. And in my wardrobe, there ARE certain piece that are harder to style, or less apealing to most people, for example the super bright ones - which i still treasure as much as the other.So I choose what i feel like most people would like (because i don't know the cousin) -- 2 shirts. A really elegant pink shirt and a green polo with white polka dot. AND CAN YOU BELIEVE IT, MY MOM SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THIS:"OOOOH IT'S TOO PRETTY TO GIVE IT TO HER. IF YOU KEEP IT, I CAN BORROW IT SOMETIMES"My mom just wants to give just for the sake of "GIVING". She doesn't give a shit to the person who receives the gift. What if I give something I really like, but the receiver end up "uck!" and never touches my thing?So, yeah, i decide not to share any thing anymore. Not the actual thing but so time consuming with those annoying nosy people like my mom and also my less decisive ass. Fuck. I know... it's okay not to share. I will when I FEEL like it. And, it's okay, i know i AM a good person, and I will do something good when it's time, and that's when I can naturally let things go. And it's also OK if I do not. They're mine anyway. I AM the person to choose what to do with them. If keeping makes me feel more at ease, I'll do it. ps1: i got so so upset that i punch the air and google 'i hate my mom' many times. but now after writing this down, i feel more at ease. i know i love her still.