I’m sick of my friends and family never keeping my secrets. I’m so sick of it but I don’t know weather I’m just over reacting. Every time I tell my mum something she feels the need to tell her friends. Like no matter how big it is, I have literally begged her not to say anything and she just does. I get caught smoking weed. She tells her mates. I have an argument with her. She tells her mates. I have a mental breakdown. And she’ll go and tell em. Like it doesn’t matter how big it is. I tried to kill my self a few months ago and the first thing she did was text all of her friends telling them what I did. I asked her not to tell anyone because I was embarrassed and she still did. What made it worse was that she lied to me. she looked me in the eye and told me she hadn’t told anyone. But I saw the messages!!! Like wtf!! She’s literally just digging a bigger hole. my friend did the same thing as well. She literally tells people all my shit. Whatever I tell her. The funny thing is that she tells me other people’s secrets all the time so really I don’t know why I still trust her. I guess I don’t have many friends. When I tried to kill myself and she found out. She told me on the phone that she told this guy who’s her friend. I’d asked her not to say anything but ... anyway she explained that she needed someone to talk to, which I completely understand. (Me and my friend regularly smoke weed as well but I’d stopped when I was recovering so she was most likely high when she was in the phone to me.) But then I start getting messages off her other friends asking how I am. Not just like the odd 1. Like 4. and I’ve never had that before from them. And they all get weird with me and stuff. Then When I asked her if she’s mentioned it to them she told me she hasn’t ever said anything to anyone. like including her guy friend. But she did coz she told me she did. So I caught her in a lie because she forgot that she already told me. It’s just little things like that which piss me off. I just feel like no listens to me. And everyone just lies to me all the time but I know everything. If your gonna lie. Don’t get high and tell me something your gonna lie about. but like I dunno if I’m being dramatic or not.?? -H

I’m sick of my friends and family never keeping my secrets. I’m so sick of it but I don’t know weather I’m just over reacting. Every time I tell my mum something she feels the need to tell her friends. Like no matter how big it is, I have literally begged her not to say anything and she just does. I get caught smoking weed. She tells her mates. I have an argument with her. She tells her mates. I have a mental breakdown. And she’ll go and tell em. Like it doesn’t matter how big it is. I tried to kill my self a few months ago and the first thing she did was text all of her friends telling them what I did. I asked her not to tell anyone because I was embarrassed and she still did. What made it worse was that she lied to me. she looked me in the eye and told me she hadn’t told anyone. But I saw the messages!!! Like wtf!! She’s literally just digging a bigger hole. my friend did the same thing as well. She literally tells people all my shit. Whatever I tell her. The funny thing is that she tells me other people’s secrets all the time so really I don’t know why I still trust her. I guess I don’t have many friends. When I tried to kill myself and she found out. She told me on the phone that she told this guy who’s her friend. I’d asked her not to say anything but ... anyway she explained that she needed someone to talk to, which I completely understand. (Me and my friend regularly smoke weed as well but I’d stopped when I was recovering so she was most likely high when she was in the phone to me.) But then I start getting messages off her other friends asking how I am. Not just like the odd 1. Like 4. and I’ve never had that before from them. And they all get weird with me and stuff. Then When I asked her if she’s mentioned it to them she told me she hasn’t ever said anything to anyone. like including her guy friend. But she did coz she told me she did. So I caught her in a lie because she forgot that she already told me. It’s just little things like that which piss me off. I just feel like no listens to me. And everyone just lies to me all the time but I know everything. If your gonna lie. Don’t get high and tell me something your gonna lie about. but like I dunno if I’m being dramatic or not.?? -H

You are NOT being dramatic, OR overreacting! In theory, you're supposed to be able to trust your family!We learn a LOT about trust and boundaries from our parents _ other family members. That all gets either challenged or reinforced by the relationships we choose and develope throughout our lives... Of course you're pissed! I would be, too.You deserve to have people in your life that you can confide in, without a fear of being the latest gossip, or curiosity. It's a lack of sensitivity AND a lack of respect. If you think she'll be receptive, talk to your mum about how hurtful it is to you, mate. Beyond that - don't share things you don't want her friends to hear. Good luck to you.

You are NOT being dramatic, OR overreacting! In theory, you're supposed to be able to trust your family!We learn a LOT about trust and boundaries from our parents _ other family members. That all gets either challenged or reinforced by the relationships we choose and develope throughout our lives... Of course you're pissed! I would be, too.You deserve to have people in your life that you can confide in, without a fear of being the latest gossip, or curiosity. It's a lack of sensitivity AND a lack of respect.   If you think she'll be receptive, talk to your mum about how hurtful it is to you, mate. Beyond that - don't share things you don't want her friends to hear. Good luck to you.