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Should i leave my husband?

So, I've been married for almost 20 years to a man i love very much. We have a smart, funny and wonderful 15 year old boy who is definitely the best of both of us. But here's the deal. My husband and i haven't had sex in years because he has erectile dysfunction and doesn't want to get help for it. He expresses no interest in being intimate with me at all. Just doesn't seem to bother him. I think it's part physical because he has high blood pressure and high cholesterol and just does not take care of himself. He's also a deeply depressed but man, he always has been, but he lost his job because of the pandemic and not even looking for a new one. He says things like he's pretty much ready to give up on life. But I'm not! And he doesn't want to get help!

Here's the rub, I've met a man who i flirted with for fun at first, but it turns out that we really like each other. This new man doesn't want to "hook up" , i know because i suggested it! He said a hook up would be short lived, and he wants so much more from me. He is single, never been married, and very succesful and said he'll wait for me to see if my husband and i can fix our marriage, or dissolve it.

I'm not happy married to a man who is giving up on life. And God help me, i really like the new guy and the possibility of a happy and secure future.

What should i do?



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Re: Should i leave my husband?

The sooner you realize that you are at the verge of breaking things in your marriage the better it would be


You can not only damage your relationship as a wife but also as a mom.


I do understand the urge for intimacy and the role it plays, may be you have to look for more and safer options.


Flirt and all sounds good, its just a mental satisfaction, you are in need for physical ones, you need a trust worthy friends with benefit kinda guy


BUT before that , say and let your husband know how much you love him and want him to make love to you , say and let him understand your need for this, give it few shots before you do take the other route, else simply sacrifice for the sake of your love and kid.


You will atleast have mental peace of not breaking or cheating your partner unless you can get over it


This is merely my suggestion and view and no expert advise, you would know things better


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Thanks for your time guys

if you both feel like you would lead better lives without the presence of the other , and you arent to tolerate the relationship anymore , so yes divorce would be the right choice . but the question is would you child be okay with it ? if you are sure of your decision and you child also supports you ( because this would effect him the most), and you know there would be more happiness than regrets in this decision , you should do what you like,life is too short to give up on any good opportunities , its a take the risk or lose the chance , again please ask how your kid feels about this.