Don't fall in love with the first person who is kind to you. Whether they smile at you in the hallway, or listen to you attentively when you speak. Whether they ask after you when you are quiet or absent, or make you feel a little more seen on the days you feel invisible. If they make you feel like you are someone worth being around. Because its not love you feel for them, it's admiration, mixed in with gratitude. You feel almost indebted to them for the kindness they have shown you. But remember this- you don't owe them your love, they are just doing what any half decent human being should do. Based on your past experiences, it may feel like it, they are not doing you a favour by being nice to you, they are only doing what they should. You deserve to be treated well without any ulterior motives. And I'm sorry that the others in your life didn't see that. You deserve to be treated decent without feeling like you have to earn it. And just because they are a good person, doesn't make them the one. Sometimes kindness is just that.