My parents just don’t get it. They withheld me from my mom’s family because my grandfather had an illness. The owners made him grouchy, it was called alcoholism. It was not his fault anymore than cancer or diabetes but my parents grounded me from him and made me miss all the joy for family occasions that occurred. They claimed to be doing this to protect me and my siblings. However, our grandfather was not dangerous anymore than my sister who has diabetes would be. We can step out of the room if he gets grouchy because of drinking but he was never violent or dangerous or mean. My cousins all saw him and they turned out just fine, in fact they turned out a lot better than my parents children. The hypocrisy of this is that at the same time my parents took me to the Cooper’s. The Cooper’s had a convicted sex offender in the family. The Cooper’s had an uncle who had an affair with another woman despite being married. The Cooper’s had an elder that was a ConMan as a businessman who caused great stress to my other grandfather. And the Cooper’s had a man that was married to my aunt for 22 years who the family now hates because they are divorced after he had an affair just like his brother. Lastly one of the family members that we saw every Thanksgiving while my mom made us boycott her family because of my grandfather, was a former alcoholic convicted of second-degree murder. He had served 12 years in prison many years back. It’s now wondering if he may have done something to the grandson who became a pedophile. all of this my mom was perfectly fine with and therefore my dad who only did what my mom told him to do. My dad has no balls by the way. However, they wouldn’t let us around my mom‘s family which was a family of peace and happiness with one member who suffered from an illness that made him have mood swings. I would much rather be with that then with a convicted murderer and a convicted rapist. My parents FUCKED UP BIG and now I pay the price with my anxiety. PS— I should add that since my aunt got divorced from my former uncle six years ago, the former uncle’s addict nephew Steve has been arrested for DUI manslaughter. More dysfunction in the family that my parents exposed me to. My parents failed as parents with a capital F.