self harm; what most see as a sign of weakness. It is anything but weak; anything but dumb; anything but invalid. Generalizing why some go through with it would be extremely wrong, since everyone has their own different but just as valid reasons. Your loved ones might urge you to stop; yelling at you that you are hurting them by hurting yourself, that you are being selfish; but you are not. please remember to never ever force a healing if you don’t feel ready. The fact that part of the process is physical does not mean it requires immediate healing; because sometimes the healing process is more damaging that what you are trying to heal. You only deserve the best and that is people who are willing to stick around while you are still in the process; when you decide to want to recover; and when you did. Your feelings are valid.