I don't even know what i feel like. I am 13 years old I have a lot of acne on my face and people just keep talking about it right in front of me. I don't have a pretty smile too whenever i smile the acne on my face stretches out and it looks so ugly. And the smile on my face it asymmetrical too. I am not ashamed of my skin color but i have really bad features on my face. I don't even have a good body . The worst part is I always get compared to my sister by my relatives and friends. My friends are like 'set me up with your sister she is so pretty' and 'oh you both look way too different i had no idea'. I feel really insecure looking at my sister. I don't even have a lot of friends they all like to hang out with her and leave me out. My parents don't even let me buy skincare for myself. Can someone please tell me how i can love myself ?

I don't even know what i feel like. I am 13 years old I have a lot of acne on my face and people just keep talking about it right in front of me. I don't have a pretty smile too whenever i smile the acne on my face stretches out and it looks so ugly. And the smile on my face it asymmetrical too. I am not ashamed of my skin color but i have really bad features on my face. I don't even have a good body . The worst part is I always get compared to my sister by my relatives and friends. My friends are like 'set me up with your sister she is so pretty' and 'oh you both look way too different i had no idea'. I feel really insecure looking at my sister. I don't even have a lot of friends they all like to hang out with her and leave me out. My parents don't even let me buy skincare for myself. Can someone please tell me how i can love myself ?

Girl first of all YOU ARE NOT UGLY OK! You're just 13 now and in that age it's very common to get acnes. Everyone in this world have acnes even me myself I got few of them, so don't be disheartened because of that. Also about people judging you please don't care about it. People are always gonna judge you because they want your attention, but girl don't give them the attention they don't deserve. Trust me You are beautiful inside and out, and yeah next time people compare you with your sister tell them 'yes I'm proud to have a pretty sister and thank you for praising my sis also you look at yourself before judging me' just say that to those toxic people girl. Ofc some might call you rude for it but don't care. Your life and body belongs only to you so you have to make sure to love yourself. And yeah lastly for acne products I think you actually don't need it cause once you reach certain age your skin might come to normal. Anyway if you wanna buy some skin care products later on you can go for Korean skin care products like innisfree or etude house 😉

Girl first of all YOU ARE NOT UGLY OK! You're just 13 now and in that age it's very common to get acnes. Everyone in this world have acnes even me myself I got few of them, so don't be disheartened because of that. Also about people judging you please don't care about it. People are always gonna judge you because they want your attention, but girl don't give them the attention they don't deserve. Trust me You are beautiful inside and out, and yeah next time people compare you with your sister tell them 'yes I'm proud to have a pretty sister and thank you for praising my sis also you look at yourself before judging me' just say that to those toxic people girl. Ofc some might call you rude for it but don't care. Your life and body belongs only to you so you have to make sure to love yourself. And yeah lastly for acne products I think you actually don't need it cause once you reach certain age your skin might come to normal. Anyway if you wanna buy some skin care products later on you can go for Korean skin care products like innisfree or etude house 😉

Re: UGLY ME

30 years ago my life was like yours is now. I survived, you will too. It will get better. I don't have to see a picture of you to know you are not ugly. You are smart and you wrote a very intelligent and introspective post. I like you and you will find good things ahead in your life.

30 years ago my life was like yours is now. I survived, you will too. It will get better. I don't have to see a picture of you to know you are not ugly. You are smart and you wrote a very intelligent and introspective post. I like you and you will find good things ahead in your life.

Girl if you wanna talk about it personally you can text me on Instagram. My Smurf account name is @leahkikon 😁.....................................................................................................

Girl if you wanna talk about it personally you can text me on Instagram. My Smurf account name is @leahkikon 😁.....................................................................................................

It’s so hard! I get it! I had acne since I was 11 and until then I had been all innocent and so carefree about life. I never really thought about how I looked in a negative way but then acne hit as everything seemed to spiral out of control. That’s how it feels when ur in your early teens- everything feels like the end of the world! I would sit in fount of the mirror and cry about my appearance, I used to wish ugly skin upon my younger sister thinking that if she was more ugly than me that I would feel better. At some point you have to realise that beauty isn’t about the outside, to live a beautiful life you have to be happy within yourself. The person I idolise in my family is my mum. She used to say “ugh what have you done that to your face for!” When I picked my skin or she’d say “aren’t you going to wear makeup?” When I felt like my skin was looking ok. Trust me it doesn’t last forever!! Doesn’t feel like it at the time, I know, but you are extremely beautiful!! When you learn to love yourself then the whole world won’t feel like it’s against you. I am still learning. I am 16 and I still don’t love myself, despite my acne being gone deep down I still feel ugly. But we are all on a journey and the sooner we learn that we are the only ones who control how we feel the better the journey will be. You have probably stopped reading at this point because I am very much word vomiting. If I could go back and give my 13 year old self any advice I would say : you are such a badass!! You need to forget about what people think and just be as happy as possible in yourself. Xx good luck and remember ur probably doing better then me 😘

It’s so hard! I get it! I had acne since I was 11 and until then I had been all innocent and so carefree about life. I never really thought about how I looked in a negative way but then acne hit as everything seemed to spiral out of control. That’s how it feels when ur in your early teens- everything feels like the end of the world! I would sit in fount of the mirror and cry about my appearance, I used to wish ugly skin upon my younger sister thinking that if she was more ugly than me that I would feel better. At some point you have to realise that beauty isn’t about the outside, to live a beautiful life you have to be happy within yourself. The person I idolise in my family is my mum. She used to say “ugh what have you done that to your face for!” When I picked my skin or she’d say “aren’t you going to wear makeup?” When I felt like my skin was looking ok. Trust me it doesn’t last forever!! Doesn’t feel like it at the time, I know, but you are extremely beautiful!! When you learn to love yourself then the whole world won’t feel like it’s against you. I am still learning. I am 16 and I still don’t love myself, despite my acne being gone deep down I still feel ugly. But we are all on a journey and the sooner we learn that we are the only ones who control how we feel the better the journey will be. You have probably stopped reading at this point because I am very much word vomiting. If I could go back and give my 13 year old self any advice I would say : you are such a badass!! You need to forget about what people think and just be as happy as possible in yourself. Xx good luck and remember ur probably doing better then me 😘

It is hard. Words can affect you a lot more than you would think. When people comment negatively on your appearance, or compare you to others. It hurts! you begin to believe what they tell you. Especially in today's society, where people place such importance on "looking good" and judge others based on appearances alone. It is indeed hard to love yourself. So how do you love yourself? Well, first, you must remember this: you are so much more than your looks! You are a person, not an object. You have your physical appearance, but you also have a personality, talents, dreams, feelings, intelligence.... So much more! If you truly want to love yourself you must love everything about you. That means remembering that you are always worthy of love, no matter how you look. Think of yourself as an amazing, unique individual. Try to choose good non-appearance related things about yourself that you like. Think about the kindness and consideration that you show to others, think about how intelligent and hardworking you are, think about the unique talents you have, Think of your good personality. Its those things that really make who you are. It is the inside (personality) of a person that really makes them attractive and beautiful. No matter whatever anyone says, that is the truth. No-one likes a stunning, gorgeous person who is horrible and rude to everyone, do they? That being said, it is understandable that you may not always feel beautiful. But that is fine! everyone has days where they don't feel great about themselves. However, if you love yourself by remembering that you are much more than your appearance. and that you are always worthy of love. You will get through it okay :)Apart from that, it might help to try a little something called self care. Self care is simple, it's just being kind to yourself and doing things you like. This will make you feel a lot better! Traditionally, people might think of self care as doing a face mask. However, in reality, it can be anything you enjoy! Take some time to yourself to do something you love (because you deserve it !) whether that is watching your favourite movie with some good snacks, buying something nice for yourself, talking with a friend, exercising, or listening to your favourite music. Doing something nice for yourself often can be a nice reminder that you are special and worthy and also a good way to practice self-love. I wish you all the best in your journey of learning to love yourself and hope this helped a little! (sorry if it was long !!) I am also willing to talk if you need it ^_^

It is hard. Words can affect you a lot more than you would think. When people comment negatively on your appearance, or compare you to others. It hurts! you begin to believe what they tell you. Especially in today's society, where people place such importance on "looking good" and judge others based on appearances alone. It is indeed hard to love yourself.So how do you love yourself? Well, first, you must remember this: you are so much more than your looks! You are a person, not an object. You have your physical appearance, but you also have a personality, talents, dreams, feelings, intelligence.... So much more! If you truly want to love yourself you must love everything about you.  That means remembering that you are always worthy of love, no matter how you look. Think of yourself as an amazing, unique individual. Try to choose good non-appearance related things about yourself that you like. Think about the kindness and consideration that you show to others, think about how intelligent and hardworking you are, think about the unique talents you have, Think of your good personality. Its those things that really make who you are. It is the inside (personality) of a person that really makes them attractive and beautiful. No matter whatever anyone says, that is the truth. No-one likes a stunning, gorgeous person who is horrible and rude to everyone, do they? That being said, it is understandable that you may not always feel beautiful. But that is fine! everyone has days where they don't feel great about themselves. However, if you love yourself by remembering that you are much more than your appearance. and that you are always worthy of love. You will get through it okay :)Apart from that, it might help to try a little something called self care. Self care is simple, it's just being kind to yourself and doing things you like. This will make you feel a lot better! Traditionally, people might think of self care as doing a face mask. However, in reality, it can be anything you enjoy! Take some time to yourself to do something you love (because you deserve it !) whether that is watching your favourite movie with some good snacks, buying something nice for yourself, talking with a friend, exercising, or listening to your favourite music. Doing something nice for yourself often can be a nice reminder that you are special and worthy and also a good way to practice self-love. I wish you all the best in your journey of learning to love yourself and hope this helped a little! (sorry if it was long !!) I am also willing to talk if you need it ^_^ 

I know if I told ya that in a few yrs , none of this is gonna matter, it would be pointless BUT, Im ABOUT to tell why its pointless NOW, and by personally witnessing both a boy and girl image senerio, during MY JR HIGH days in the 70s, I HOPE to convince you that their disfigured facial traits did NOT have NEAR the effect on their love interests, NOR their interpersonal relationships, and ability to obtain LOYAL/TRUSTING friendships on into HS.. As we were lockin up our bikes on a warm SEPT 5 morning in 74 starting the school yr, we noticed weird lookin boy comin up the steps with an woman, we figured was his mom, and the 5 of us were like CHRIST! WTF happened to this guy?...We all thought right then , He'd been burned BAD in a fire. Come to find out later, it was huge birth mark, which had one eye slight drooped, and to add insult to injury, HE had acne on the half not effected...OMG!, I felt bad for him (but I couldnt let that show at that time)..The girls avoided him like the BB plague...As ppl got to know him, his rapport with others was mostly negative, BUT, it seemed NOT to effect him the way everybody THOUGHT it "should"?... Most puzzling???...Long story short, by midterm, this guy had his "own" friend circle. Turns out he was REALLY GOOD in woodshop, which won him respect and equal adolecent treatment by all of us, being one of the gang, with his appearence now fully accepted, and even honored.SEE...this guys personality, acceptence confidence in himself, self respect/ value over shadow his appearence allow others to value what he had to offer THEM rather than being a whipping boy for his appearence to take center stage, to set up a non stop ,daily bullying /disrespecting sequence...Truth is girl, and PLEASE take HEED in this next quote. " You TEACH ppl HOW to treat you"... SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. My junior yr of HS, this girl , who was obviously POOR by the 1950ish clothes she was wearing, came in Ms Daniels english class with her head down, all eyes on her, and took a seat as Ms Daniels intro'd her..I thought holy S***T, this girl's gotta be 80' tall?.Normally all the kids "back then" would say "welcome "persons name"? BUT, sadly only a few girls eeked out a weak welcome..Her dress didnt look like it fit right and her 1950s shoes were kinda gawdy (usally GUYS could carless about shoes as long as they werent being THROWN at us..LOL) but it was kinda hard NOT to notice in the case...Again , I was a shy guy , who always had empathy for anyone who seemed to stand out BUT, b/c of peer pressure, I had to let it "secretly show" or not at all if the "clique" was around..OH BTW, IM NOT like that NOW..LOL (100%true blue to myself in the 21st).. Anyway, this girl finally scored two friends, who ate lunch with her alone out by the ball field, and as you can imagine , the HEIGHT JOKES (hows the weather up there? and Did you steal those clothes at MOMS 50s sock hop? were all the "buzz" in the hallways...Like the boy in the last story, She took the teasing/belittling it in stride, as well as being TOTALLY ignored by ALL boys...THEN,as time went on, the basketball coach had his eye on her and next thing I know, she's stayin after school in the gym shootin hoops and I remember as I watched say " She could hit a BULL in the BUTT with a BASS FIDDLE..LOL..BUT, she looked TOTALLY different in RED gym shorts and a LONG borrowed T shirt prolly givin to her BY the coach...THEN , about 4 other girls started stayin after to mentor her and her personality started to blossom. She started actually speaking FIRST to ppl.. I remember her callin me "SHORT STUFF" outside the varsity house canteen, as a TUCKED TAIL, and ran for my sanctuary inside to the PINBALL MACHINES..LOL...This girl's dress code didnt change hardly any, if at all really and she wasnt gettin any shorter, BUT...ppl started opening up to her b/c she'd found her confidence, as she imporved on the court and She started having "clever" comebacks to the derrogetory jokes that would still come her way..WHICH.... GUESS WHAT? ... brought out the insecurity's in the BULLYS that had been plaguing HER all this time..(WHO KNEW?..LOL)...Turnabouts fair play ...right? Ya cant take it DONT DISH IT OUT right?....LOL..I have fond memories of this girl and MY steady girl our senior yr as THIS GIRL, in her GINGHAM GOWN GET UP, actually brought a "50s retro LOOK " back into style, ALL B/C her personality and the WAY she carried herself with respect that she was brought up with, not taking any SHIT from boys in JR HIGH, allowing other girls to get close to her, and HER opening up and tryin to fit in thru basketball, which allowed her guard to come down..SEE.. in both these cases, their appearences did NOT change...THEY "changed" (as a verb) the ppl around them, and became their equal and more in some respects.. As a GUY, heres another MYTH about appearence Ive found to be true I thought Id share with ya as well.. What Ive found to be the TRUTH regarding everybodys "appearence" is that We all fit somewhere in the middle of this sliding scale...Yep , you and I are one of the dash's smack in the middle. Ugly----------------Pretty. Its WAY too subjective and opinionated too have a standard..In fact, find several female comediennes beautiful, absolutely to DIE for, but never a word is spoken, or written about their appearence good or bad, unless they're found drunk , throwin up in a toliet..LOL..THEN, when "judging" those ,who are supposed to represent this fake facade that the "Status Que" HAS deemed the "Prettiest of all" OMG! Really?..Anyone of my Comedienne's would EASILY take the crown over ANY of these status Que picks so???...Its MY opinion, Its MY standards... You have YOUR same preferences which Im sure another Girl would say EEEW GROSS...LOL...You add EVERYBODYS "preferences and standards" together mish mash them up in a hat, draw one out .... Guess what, after its judged by everyone, its gonna fit right there in the middle of that scale...PLUS , being a guy, We are content with all the lil bumps, curves, dimples, pudges, blimishes, YOUR trying to hide , thinking they're offensive when quite honestly, WE find them endearing making you "imperfectly PERFECT" in our eyes and part of who you are that mixes with what we love about you on the INSIDE..Its a package deal girl...

I know if I told ya that in a few yrs , none of this is gonna matter, it would be pointless BUT, Im ABOUT to tell why its pointless NOW, and by personally witnessing both a boy and girl image senerio, during MY JR HIGH days in the 70s, I HOPE to convince you that their disfigured facial traits did NOT have NEAR the effect on their love interests, NOR their interpersonal relationships, and ability to obtain LOYAL/TRUSTING friendships on into HS..As we were lockin up our bikes on a warm SEPT 5 morning in 74 starting the school yr, we noticed weird lookin boy comin up the steps with an woman, we figured was his mom, and the 5 of us were like CHRIST! WTF happened to this guy?...We all thought right then , He'd been burned BAD in a fire. Come to find out later, it was huge birth mark, which had one eye slight drooped, and to add insult to injury, HE had acne on the half not effected...OMG!, I felt bad for him (but I couldnt let that show at that time)..The girls avoided him like the BB plague...As ppl got to know him, his rapport with others was mostly negative, BUT, it seemed NOT to effect him the way everybody THOUGHT it "should"?... Most puzzling???...Long story short, by midterm, this guy had his "own" friend circle. Turns out he was REALLY GOOD in woodshop, which won him respect and equal adolecent treatment by all of us, being one of the gang, with his appearence now fully accepted, and even honored.SEE...this guys personality, acceptence confidence in himself, self respect/ value over shadow his appearence allow others to value what he had to offer THEM rather than being a whipping boy for his appearence to take center stage, to set up a non stop ,daily bullying /disrespecting sequence...Truth is girl, and PLEASE take HEED in this next quote. " You TEACH ppl HOW to treat you"... SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. My junior yr of HS, this girl , who was obviously POOR by the 1950ish clothes she was wearing, came in  Ms Daniels english class with her head down, all eyes on her, and took a seat as Ms Daniels intro'd her..I thought holy S***T, this girl's gotta be 80' tall?.Normally all the kids "back then" would say "welcome "persons name"? BUT, sadly only a few girls eeked out a weak welcome..Her dress didnt look like it fit right and her 1950s shoes were kinda gawdy (usally GUYS could carless about shoes as long as they werent being THROWN at us..LOL) but it was kinda hard NOT to notice in the case...Again , I was a shy guy , who always had empathy for anyone who seemed to stand out BUT, b/c of peer pressure, I had to let it "secretly show" or not at all if the "clique" was around..OH BTW, IM NOT like that NOW..LOL (100%true blue to myself in the 21st).. Anyway, this girl finally scored two friends, who ate lunch with her alone out by the ball field, and as you can imagine , the HEIGHT JOKES (hows the weather up there? and Did you steal those clothes at  MOMS 50s sock hop? were all the "buzz" in the hallways...Like the boy in the last story, She took the teasing/belittling it in stride, as well as being TOTALLY ignored by ALL boys...THEN,as time went on, the basketball coach had his eye on her and next thing I know, she's stayin after school in the gym shootin hoops and I remember as I watched say " She could hit a BULL in the BUTT with a BASS FIDDLE..LOL..BUT, she looked TOTALLY different in RED gym shorts and a LONG borrowed T shirt prolly givin to her BY the coach...THEN , about 4 other girls started stayin after to mentor her and her personality started to blossom. She started actually speaking FIRST to ppl.. I remember her callin me "SHORT STUFF" outside the varsity house canteen, as a TUCKED TAIL, and ran for my sanctuary inside to the PINBALL MACHINES..LOL...This girl's dress code didnt change hardly any, if at all really and she wasnt gettin any shorter, BUT...ppl started opening up to her b/c she'd found her confidence, as she imporved on the court and She started having "clever" comebacks to the derrogetory jokes that would still come her way..WHICH.... GUESS WHAT? ... brought out the insecurity's in the BULLYS that had been plaguing HER all this time..(WHO KNEW?..LOL)...Turnabouts fair play ...right? Ya cant take it DONT DISH IT OUT right?....LOL..I have fond memories of this girl and MY steady girl our senior yr as THIS GIRL, in her GINGHAM GOWN GET UP, actually brought a "50s retro LOOK " back into style, ALL B/C her personality and the WAY she carried herself with respect that she was brought up with, not taking any SHIT from boys in JR HIGH, allowing other girls to get close to her, and HER opening up and tryin to fit in thru basketball, which allowed her guard to come down..SEE.. in both these cases, their appearences did NOT change...THEY "changed" (as a verb) the ppl around them, and became their equal and more in some respects..As a GUY, heres another MYTH about appearence Ive found to be true I thought Id share with ya as well..What Ive found to be the TRUTH regarding everybodys "appearence" is that We all fit somewhere in the middle of this sliding scale...Yep , you and I are one of the dash's smack in the middle. Ugly----------------Pretty. Its WAY too subjective and opinionated too have a standard..In fact, find several female comediennes beautiful, absolutely to DIE for, but never a word is spoken, or written about their appearence good or bad, unless they're found drunk , throwin up in a toliet..LOL..THEN, when "judging" those ,who are supposed to represent this fake facade that the "Status Que" HAS deemed the "Prettiest of all" OMG! Really?..Anyone of my Comedienne's would EASILY take the crown over ANY of these status Que picks so???...Its MY opinion, Its MY standards... You have YOUR same preferences which Im sure another Girl would say EEEW GROSS...LOL...You add EVERYBODYS "preferences and standards" together mish mash them up in a hat, draw one out .... Guess what, after its judged by everyone, its gonna fit right there in the middle of that scale...PLUS , being a guy, We are content with all the lil bumps, curves, dimples, pudges, blimishes, YOUR trying to hide , thinking they're offensive when quite honestly, WE find them endearing making you "imperfectly PERFECT" in our eyes and part of who you are that mixes with what we love about you on the INSIDE..Its a package deal girl...

I have been on a massive journey. I have broken myself down and slowly starting to build back up. but the best thing I realised is you can have acne, you could not like your body, you could be jealous of other girls, but if you have a good heart then that is so much stronger. looks are stains you can rub off after a few washes. personality is scars that could stick with you forever. now we only live once and you can choose what path you take in your life. But trust me on this, it can only get better and beautiful you are only 13 ! I am just about to turn 15 and it has taken two years ! So many people have walked out, given up on me. Left me. but in all of that I never left myself and who I wanted to be. SO BE A BAD BITCH AND STRUT YOUR STUFF BECAUSE YOU DESERVE LOVE AND YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS DONT LET ANYONE TAKE THAT AWAY

I have been on a massive journey. I have broken myself down and slowly starting to build back up. but the best thing I realised is you can have acne, you could not like your body, you could be jealous of other girls, but if you have a good heart then that is so much stronger. looks are stains you can rub off after a few washes. personality is scars that could stick with you forever. now we only live once and you can choose what path you take in your life. But trust me on this, it can only get better and beautiful you are only 13 ! I am just about to turn 15 and it has taken two years ! So many people have walked out, given up on me. Left me. but in all of that I never left myself and who I wanted to be. SO BE A BAD BITCH AND STRUT YOUR STUFF BECAUSE YOU DESERVE LOVE AND YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS DONT LET ANYONE TAKE THAT AWAY 