Just because we don't talk to you about everything going on with our special needs child, doesn't mean we don't talk or worry about him at all. As his parents, we probably worry the most.Your job as a grandparent, is to love on your grandchild, and have fun with him. Your job is not to figure out every aspect of his life - What is he eating? Is he progressing? Why is his progress so slow? He needs more therapy. What is he doing at school? Are kids bullying him? You should ask his teachers about this. Talk to this person. I read about this. Try this product. STOP! PLEASE...just stop.We understand you're concerned, we understand you care, you love, and you're just trying to help...but PLEASE let us (his parents) worry about it, and figure it out. You don't know how often we're talking to teachers and therapists. You don't know the questions we ask, and the research we do. You don't live with OUR son 24/7, so you don't see how some training becomes traumatic. You don't understand when to pull back, and when it's okay to continue.Also, please remember that you have more than one grandchild. Just because the other one isn't developmentally delayed, does not mean he doesn't need just as much attention and care. Your other grandchild sees you ignore him, and constantly put him second. You don't think it affects him, but it does. Just because he's physically okay, does not mean he is not mentally and emotionally dealing with complications.We want a loving and functional relationship with you, but you are constantly making it so difficult. PLEASE respect the boundaries, and know where your place is. It's not acting as his parent, his guardian, his therapist, or social worker. Your role is to be a grandparent - love on your grandchildren, spoil them, and have fun. If we're not harming OUR children, then you have no right or place to step in and figure things out for us. If we are really struggling with something, we will ask. PLEASE don't make us despise you, and PLEASE don't make us stop coming to see you. We don't want that, but you're really pushing us in that direction.