I honestly don't know what to do. I want to fox things with my girlfriend but I don't know where to start. The past several times we've seen each other it ended in fights. Of course I'm starting to anticipate that happening again (because patterns) and it leads me to being more or less anxious and uncomfortable when I see her because I don't know how to behave. Thats one of the main problems, I don't seem comfortable around her and I suck at conversations (I just don't have social skills but that's a different thing). It seems like we're both apprehensive to meet because we worry about fighting. I tried inviting her for a walk but it lead to this weird, not fight but definitely not good feeling conversation about how she's apprehensive to say yes and in the end we scratched the idea and stopped talking for the night. I dont know where to go. I want to fix things and make it work but I feel lost
Re: What to do after fights
I'm sorry to hear that. I was in the same situation with my now deceased girlfriend.
You might want to see a therapist that specializes in relationship problems. Try to not say anything that may spark a fight. If she is intentionally starting fights, you may want to consider leaving her. This is not good for your mental health. if you can't think up of convo topics don't force yourself to think up of something. You don't have to constantly fill the silence with conversation. Sometimes showing physical affection like cuddling can be a replacement for talking. Or watching a movie, things like that. Hope that helps.