Ok so I could write more details but the essentials are all that matterI am with someoneI love someoneThose are not the same personI have tried and tried and tried to love who I am with, more intimacy, talking my needs, their needs, even prayer, talking to friends, if you can think it, I did it.And I realised I was just not strong enough to accept reality when I should have, and of course the last thing I want is to hurt someone I care for.But the person I love, I doubt they feel the same, in fact I would say nearly definite they do not, and boy does it hurt.I mean this person, I see them, my day is perfect, I talk with them and I am so happy, there are differences and yet all I see is the most beautiful person inside and out, you couldn't offer anything I could want more, to be with them or any 1000 others, to be with them or a be rich. They are everything I could ever want.Now though I can accept what will be, I have realised I need to at some stage, end my relationship I am in.Trouble is I believe from many reasons, they would end up in a pit of despair, live a life alone, sad, hurt, aching pain like I feel now.So can I do it, can I hurt someone for nothing, but then if I don't end things, sure they stay ok, but I know I am never giving them the physical and emotional love and affection they deserve. But also, whilst I cannot see me loving someone but the one I do, I have loved to a lesser degree, in the past, and so I know one day, I could love someone else, maybe not as much or maybe let's just say, differently.So stay and I assure I couldn't be with them, but separate and cause financial and emotional problems for someone who is important if not loved romantically.How do I deal with this, maybe despite knowing them so well, maybe I am wrong, in a year they would find another, maybe they would deal with it.I am also scared because, what if the one I love did want me, then I couldn't throw that single chance of happiness away, I just couldn't not if I had a chance not for physical things only, but longer term, life! Marriage!No, so I would have to rip apart a persons life to get that happiness for me.What do I do, do I bluntly say we are done after more than a decade.Do I carry on as I have for most of those years, and just deal with it knowing I will never be with who I love anyway.Do I part ways but in some slow gentle way if such a way exists?All I do know is I wish love was an off and on switch because I hate suffering in love, and I hate to even hurt someone who loves me.Life is not fair, if it was I could love who I am with, or the one I love could love me, or, well a million what ifs and still I have no clue what to do or hpw