When I first met my wife her bipolar had control of her. Too many meds. She was going to die from the effects eventually. I help get her off quickly. It was possible because she was so happy. Great yr of friendship. Then 34 yrs of happiness before 1 yr of not. I had a disease the nearly kill me endlessly. I paid her off a huge brick home. Invested $ Incase I died. Her mom had move close. Ruined our wk ends for couple yrs. but we still very happy. Her sisters are wise enough stay from their mom Well her mom move next door. For two yrs our life taken over. It beat down my wife. She have go there every day after work to cook; clean; shop. They take over our kids too. Our Church life. Every day. Her mom is healthy; her husband my age. Each a nice retirement. Not rich but much better off than us. They play tennis & stuff. Very active. When wife’s gma got sick her mom refuse to help. Me & wife did help. She kicked my wife out in high school for me reason. Locked her out growing up. Never spent any time with wife. Does same to my kids. My kids were over yr ahead. Honor roll. High level multiple sport athletes. All were gonna play DI sports. Step mom want them play online & eat junk food everyday. Wife doesn’t realize how upset her mom makes her. She’d leave her house & cry; shake; scream, get mad at me. Our kids quit sports; art; band; music; martial arts; robotics. They start failing. When start fail I finally stand up to her mom. I’d just had a transplant. They said 20 more yrs. well her mom hates defiance. She convince my wife to divorce me after a yr of my power struggle with her over kids. I got their grades up but was endless turmoil with her interference. So suddenly we divorced. Her mom pay for it. A yr later my autistic son is trying to learn to walk again after multi seizures. He had break down without me. Lost scholarship. Went from very happy to want come out of room or see anyone. Tells me I promised to never leave but I did. Daughter moved out at 16. Did grad high school. Was going to be engineer. Now doesn’t want college & sees therapist. My youngest nearly arrested for fighting. I proved he was defend others & didn’t start it. My ex problem from long ago return. The stress of her mom for two yrs was beat her down. But my being gone has destroy her. She was 130 lbs our whole marriage. Now she’s under 80. My poor wife. Breaks my heart. All my poor babies. It’s amazing how one nasty person can cause so much sadness. My ex ask me if I’m going to be able to care for kids if she dies. That’s the problem. I got a weird blood infection in cheap apartments. It looks like I’ll be dead in under a yr. I’ve never hit a woman or child. I’d like to smack her mom. I won’t of course. I’m try fix up their expensive house. Her mom talked her into sell other house. Massive debt in this one. My ex & I were get along great again. Her mom come over bitching about my repairs. Experts could have done better. I’m disabled. I help ex keep house. I eat mostly crackers. Yet spent on $ to fix house. I needed scaffolding. When she bought house builders left big gaps by windows. I had to stand on tallest ladder to reach. Then climb in window seals to seal these giant windows. Had use lot of caulk to seal big gaps. The mortar had failed because gap too big. Rest of my repairs look good. Rest of my windows look good. Those 3 look pretty good except very top of those 3 windows. Honestly 2 look amateur; one looks like shit I’ll admit. But I had no $ for scaffolding or taller ladder. So to do the tops I scale edge of window seal. Use two legs & one hand to hold on as I caulk with other (I used to climb rocks. Have special forces relative that taught me). Problem is on this one top I couldn’t use tool. Not without risk falling. Was something in way. I said oh well & left it shoddy. At least I got the bees & wasps out of walls; & water no longer gets it. Looks fine till stand & look at it. Then that one too on one side looks terrible. But no bees & no leak. One of our kids very allergic to bees. The builders had caulked but made too thin. Gaps too big. Looked good but had failed. In last 2-3 yrs start fail bad around entire house. Note. Her parents didn’t pay to fix it. Nor did her step dad fix himself. But after I do it they say should have paid to pull & replace windows in entire home. And re mortar them all. The gaps in front are too big. Mortar would fail again. Too small to add bricks. Design mistake. Could mortar in small stones but would look stupid. So as I’m out there hanging off 20 foot ladder her parents come over. She comes out to call me down. We’d been get along great. Her parents not know we’re talk. She tell me you know we can’t get back together & your repairs in front looks terrible. Going to be hard to sell house. When youngest is 18 she’s going sell house & rent tiny apt to live near her mom still. This will make it easy on her mom. If she has less house & yard to care for it gives her more time with mom. My kids were going to stay in house for college. Then one was going to start buy house from us. Instead my kids are going to rent apts cause her mom wants them too. You ever try to pay student loans & an apt while work crappy jobs as goto college. Her mom is such a butt.