I am so confused and torn about who I should be with. Long story short, I have a child with my first boyfriend. We broke up back in 2015 and years later, I found someone I truly care about and love and now I have a baby with this person. I truly love and care about my man, but my ex boyfriend said something to me today that made question everything. He told me he wants to be with me and he doesn’t care about me having a baby with someone else and that he would treat my baby as if it were his. He said he had been thinking about it for a long time but he just didn’t know how to tell me. He said he would wait for me to make a decision until the end of this year and that if I felt the same, all I had to do was let him know and we would figure everything out together. I am very happy in my current situation and had not even thought about leaving my man. There is always going to be a part of me that wonders what would happen if I decided to be with guy #1 again. He even said his family would be delighted if we gave it another try, which they advocated for me to go back for a long time but I let them know that i had made a final decision. The relationship I had with Guy #1 was what you call puppy love. He was my first boyfriend and we met when I was 15 and he was 16. We stayed together until I was 21 and he was 22. It turned out to be a very toxic relationship due to us being young and immature. Our love was exciting but when it was bad, it was dangerous and even violent. I realized this was not a good environment for myself or for my child. He fought tooth and nail, begged and cried for me not to leave, but I was done at that point. I told him I would only consider a relationship with him again if we went to counseling together or if he went on his own at least. He didn’t do it and I waited for months and months. Since he wasn’t willing, I moved on with my life and focused on my career and my child. He did too and even started a new relationship. It took me years to find someone I truly wanted to be with and that had the qualities I was looking for. I didn’t want to settle and be unhappy for the rest of my life.Fast forward 4 years later and I finally met the guy I had been waiting for. He exceeded every quality I wanted in a man. His love is safe and calm. I feel at home with him. I had never considered my life without him since we started our relationship, until today. My mind is all over the place, I am confused. Everything feels surreal. I feel like I’m in a soap opera where I’m deciding between the bad guy and the good guy. The exciting passionate love or the safe and patient love. I know you all know the answer, and so do I. But I just feel like I need to hear it anyway. I don’t want to talk to anyone I know about this because it just seems so stupid of me to even be confused when I shouldn’t even be considering it.