Hello. I turn here because I don't know where else I could turn. My significant other and I have been dating for almost 3 years now. He is a really funny person to be around, he always wants to take care of people, help them, be there for them. He wouldn't amit it but he is really smart. Over all he is a great person. Until I do something to annoy him. Then he starts shouting, screaming at me. Occasionally, when I talk back or as I see it, defend myself he starts choking me. It happend, like 7 times already and he always tells me it is my fault. I'm the wrong for talking back. For crying. I know I can't tell it to anyone because I know it would mean I have to leave. But I don't dare to. I don't dare to speak up and I don't dare to ask for help or cry. I don't know what to do tho.